teas/coffees who does what?

[Kitsichick]

AIBU? Every Sunday DH and I both work hard on house and garden- me house- him garden as he likes planting, mowing, fencing and driving the lawn tractor. I don't dislike HW but it meber seems as valued as praising the work HE does.

And I am wondering AIBU? After two hours hard work each today, he came into the kitchen and looked sulky and said 'I thought you could at least have brought me out a cup of tea' . I said 'well, if you were thirsty or wanted a break you could have come in and made one and offered ME one- I have been working too'!
To which he replied 'It's easier for you, you're working indoors and anyway I am the one doing the heavy work'. Whereupon he made himself a HUGE mug of tea (to save coming back in later!) and took it off to the garden.

I wondered how many years I'd get for removing his head from his body with the Dyson. AIBU?

I think I'm going to give you one of these each to go with your tea

He's being a bit of a twat with his attitude, but I think you should be tea making if you're inside.

he sounds as if he's in a rude mood.

I do all the gardening at ours because I love it, I count it as a hobby not work. It is infinitely more fun than housework. So if DH cleaned the house from top to bottom (unlikely)- I'd be making him a tea

hmm i think the person inside should make the tea

simply because
a) you're closer
b) you don't have to take off muddy shoes/clothing to come in and do it!
c) it's really cold out

I dunno, if dp is working outside (admittedly this is rare!) I do tend to make him tea, and maybe some lunch. but only if i'm making one for myself...

I'd open the wine, put your feet up and read the paper

after all how hard are you mumsnetting working really?

it doesn't matter who is doing what - but if one of you makes a cuppa you should def make one for the other too. So if he came in and just made himself a cuppa, sharpen up that Dyson. If you've been slurping away indoors without taking him one out for him, hand the Dyson over it over.

Oh & cheer up!! You've both working together on your property - that is what counts. Why not reverse roles one weekend if it's really bothering you?

yep, fair cop:)

Whoever breaks for tea first should make it, and offer the other one a cup. And if that doesn't work, each person should simply just sort out their own personal requirements. He's being a bit needy TBH.

In our househowever fancies a cuppa would automatically make ask the other if they wanted one. DH prob makes more than me, he never seems to mind. Don't think we would fall out about it.