DH is having a lie in -I had one yesterday am. I will wake him at 9 and go back to bed for an hour. I am up at least 2 times a night every night with DS2 who is 20 mths and needs reassuring, a dummy finding etc. It takes me a long time to fall back to sleep after being woken. DH is unaware of of these wakes ups and sleeps through them. DS then comes into our bed about 5 and shuffles until 6ish when he wakes up and I have to get up with him. DH is also unaware of this hour of kicking and face poking. DS1 (3) gets up about 6.30 and the bickering and fighting begins. I look after the kids by myself 6am-7pm 3 days a week and work the other 2 days splitting nursery pick ups and drop offs between me and DH. I also work one long shift every other weekend and DH looks after kids all day DH works hard 5 days a week so we both split our time fairly and both are quite rightly shattered. He has been away all week with work and I have had a bad week feeling ill, a bit depressed and having badly behaved DSs. I feel so tired and unmotivated - I am going to tell DH that I need another hours sleep when he gets up - Is this unfair as it eats into our family time?