am i been unreasonable asking ex 4 help with paying for school trip

[alirobinson69]

my daughter is in her last yr of primary school in june her yr are going away for 5 days. Is it wrong for me to ask him to pay some money towards it. Basically he has just started paying csa again after so long, he paid some money for our other daughter to go a few yrs ago but he wasnt paying csa back then (csa is another story).

why im asking is that he bought our youngest a mobile fone as he bought her sister 1. When he had them for a few days after xmas he said to them and me that if they needed credit they werent to ask him but ask me as i was getting csa money from him.

I have txt him to ask if he could help that was a few days and hes not replied (typical of him)

I don't know the legalities of what exactly maintenance is for but I would assume it's basic needs - home, food, clothes, etc and any luxuries such as holidays are on top. Therefore, I would say that it's reasonable to ask him to contribute towards the school trip.

Regarding the phones, I think he's being a cheeky bloody bugger - why did he buy them phones and not enable the girls to use them?

What an arse!! Yes you should ask him. I get no maintenance from poor exdh, although he manages full sport sky package and goes to footy games Dp supports my dss. I have said he'll need to pay something towards ds1's France trip though seen as it's £300.

So are you asking because you need help or because you think he should pay?

If you need help call the school and ask for assistance and YANBU.

If it's because you think he should pay for the trip because he bought them phones, then YABU (but I wouldn't put any credit on the phones, he's being a cheeky bugger )

csa is used for basic needs. My eldest has had her fone for 2 yrs now he would put money on hers now and then, the youngest got hers for xmas but this time he said i should put money on it. Luckly the eldest doesnt use her fone that much only to txt her dad now and then when he txts her. The youngest im keeping a close eye on her because i know what shes like. I also though cheeky git saying i should put credit on their fones.

I might leave it a few more days and ask again if not looks like i be paying £112 for her to go, my parents often help me out but why should they have to.

i dont have to pay all the money straight away got to put a £10 deposit down and i can pay every wk if i have to, but yes i do think he should help as he did it for our other daughter

I work at a school and we have parents who pay weekly for things like this - you're not thought any the less of, in fact we're damn chuffed you're making the effort!

I wouldn't hold out much hope with ex paying as it sounds like he thinks the CSA money should cover everything you could possibly need to pay for...

im not counting on it out of the 4 yrs of us been divorced hes paid 9 mths of csa Would b nice of him if he did as he did for our other dd

well finally had a txt (2 days later) ex said he can only afford £40 for her trip, i suppose its something

yes better than nothing.

If he can make a baby he can fork out for 1/2 of anything on top of CSA x

Better than nothing but not great.

Parent that buys the phone puts the credit on it. If he says he pays you etc again, feel free to point out to the girls how little this is and how much your mortgage/rent, bills, shopping, uniform etc is and explain to them it doesn't even cover half of the basics, let alone anything else.