I'm not. Tell me what you would've said.

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I went next door at 3am this morning because my neighbour was playing very loud music and keeping me and DH awake. I live in a mid terrace, neighbour is on the end.

I had friends visiting with their DD and DS also in the house. I now know that all the adults in my house were awake from round 1am (when neighbour presumably came home from the pub) till I spoke to her.

When she answered her door she turned to her friend and said "It's my neighbour". I said "so you're aware you've got neighbours then. Her friend said "sorry, I'll turn it down" and went into the front room to do it.
I then said something along the lines of "if I wasn't pregnant and up in 3 hours for work I might've let it go but this isn't the first time you've done this. I presume your son isn't upstairs because if he was you'd have more consideration. You know I've got a baby so you should have some consideration for my family too. So turn the fucking music down.

She has done it a couple of times before including jumping up and down on a trampoline in the back garden (under mine and DS's bedroom windows) at 4am. But I have never openly complained about it. I'm not friendly towards her but I am civil, say hello when I see her etc.

I am moving in a few weeks so I felt less scared about complaining and feel bad to not address it before the new people move in here as they also have a young family.

So I know IANBU but am gutted I didn't really say everything I could have. What would you have said?

tomhardyismydh - because it's a Friday night you think it's okay??
I don't think the OP lives next door to a pub or club, so no it isn't!
And I don't particularly think she over-reacted either.

UWNBU

I used to live in a flat, where the nieghbours below me would quite often have very late parties, and one night at about 4.30am, i was hearing every single word of the oasis album they were listening to, so went down in my dressing gown to complain. after knocking for about 5 mins with no-one hearing me (!) I reached the end of my tether and phoned the police. they came, spoke with them for about 10 mins, and then left. no music.

then a few weeks later, we had one friend round (so three of us in total) and were playing disney trivial pursuit at about 1am when we got a visit from the police about noise. I was fuming!!

on a side note, the day after I filed a complaint, and got a grovelling apology letter and phonecall from the police so, i felt I was most definitely in the right, but be careful in case your neighbour attempt to get their own back as well...

Nannyogg yes I do think its ok for a friday or saturday night if it not happening every or all weekned wich it is not.

YANBU to ask her to turn it down and it does show a lack of consideration on her part but if she has done this before and you have never said anything how was she to know it was a problem?

I think you over-reacted seeing as you have seemed to be ok with it in the past and you swore and ranted at her after it was clear that the music would be turned down and you had received an apology.

But being kept awake is never nice.

YANBU. Until you've lived with it you don't know how stressful noisy neighbours are. I also couldnt care less what day of the week it is, music at 3am is unreasonable. Get the pent up rage off your chest while you can. I hate confrontation/arguing but lost my temper and screamed at my neighbour to 'shut the fuck up'. She did.

It's a horrid situation and I was once in the next to end terrace hell so I really do sympathise, but I think swearing at her was unreasonably aggressive

They jumped on trampoline on 4AM. They are full energy in night, aren't they.

Yanbu. They were being incredibly selfish and you must have been so tired