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to think this mum is a bit ungrateful - christening gifts

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mrsgordonfreeman · 15/01/2011 11:13

I attended a friend's baby's christening last week. I was somewhat taken aback when I logged on to Facebook this morning to see that she has listed all her baby's gifts (including mine) and suggested that he has all he needs now.

I can sort of understand the motivation behind it but I was quite upset to see the gift that I'd put so much thought into baldly listed and posted onto Facebook.

So.. unreasonable to be a bit put out? Shouldn't she have simply asked for no gifts before the christening?

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LaurieFairyonthetreeEatsCake · 15/01/2011 11:15

I thought that's what she was saying from your post - she posted all her lovely gifts on facebeook and then said he had all he needs Confused

alicet · 15/01/2011 11:15

Sorry but I don't see this as being ungrateful. Isn't she saying thankyou for all the generous gifts and that now he has them he has all he needs?

A bit of a wierd way to go about it - I would have sent individual thankyou cards rather than posting this on facebook but I still don't think this is being ungrateful

scurryfunge · 15/01/2011 11:15

Sorry, I don't understand -wasn't she just listing what she had received and then saying no more?

canyou · 15/01/2011 11:17

What did you give?
Was it a look at all he got everything we need/wanted thank you, or a more look at all this crap sarcastic comment?
Either way posting a list of his gifts is a bit weird when a nice thank you to everyone on the day would have done or a least a general thank you on facebook.

BlueCollie · 15/01/2011 11:17

That is awful and ungrateful! I was surprised that my son recieved so many gifts on his Naming Day and didn't care one bit that he had more than one of some things. What was she thinking by posting on Facebook??? I'm sure she has now offended quite a few people.

sickoftheholidays · 15/01/2011 11:17

YANBU, very ungrateful. I would go to her, ask for the gift back on the basis that her DC doesnt need it, she doesnt appear to appreciate it, and you would like to give it to a charity shop so that it can go to someone who will need it/appreciate it.

I had loads of gifts given for both my DC, and while I didnt need many of them, and indeed, some were never used, I appreciated the time and kind thoughts which had gone into all of them. Those that were never used were donated to charity or to friends more in need than myself.

scurryfunge · 15/01/2011 11:18

I think I may have read the post wrong, then, sorry.

elinorbellowed · 15/01/2011 11:20

I don't think it was intended to be rude. Just lazy! Write thank you cards.

RealityIsKnockedUp · 15/01/2011 11:21

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lazylula · 15/01/2011 11:22

Sorry but I am a bit confused!

stoppinchingthedummy · 15/01/2011 11:22

You mean listed as in to sell?!!! If so this is awful!!

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mrsgordonfreeman · 15/01/2011 11:25

There was no thank you on the list, and no thank you cards have been sent out Hmm.

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mrsgordonfreeman · 15/01/2011 11:26

It was also just a bald list of things her baby had received...

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researchinmotion · 15/01/2011 11:28

So how is listing gifts ungrateful?Confused

WimpleOfTheBallet · 15/01/2011 11:28

Well you should have said that! Maybe she will send cards this week though? Why don't you send HER card thanking her for inviting you and that might help her manners along.

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allnightlong · 15/01/2011 11:30

Confused to why you so upset she has only listed the gifts, not made any negative comments by the sound of it.
What exactly is it that has upset you?

BluddyMoFo · 15/01/2011 11:30

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NancyDrewHasaClue · 15/01/2011 11:33

Sounds like she is trying to say that her son was very lucky to get everything that he did and all his needs have now been met.

Obviously there are better ways of saying thank you but I don't think she has been ungrateful.

OP did your gift look stingy in comparisson Wink

lazylula · 15/01/2011 11:35

I am still not sure why this makes her ungrateful? Yes a thank you would have been nice but I do not think she is ungrateful, merely sharing the gifts her dc received. We opened ds1's presents at his Christening so everyone there could see what he had been given and we could say thank you, I think we did the same with ds2 as well.

lazylula · 15/01/2011 11:37

And perhaps the comment about him having all he needs now was a way of saying thank you, as in gosh he has all he needs, people were so generous.

Northernlurker · 15/01/2011 11:43

Yes I don't see why this is so offensive either. Can you say exactly what she's said before and after the list?

GypsyMoth · 15/01/2011 11:53

Op come back and explain!!

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