No wedding invite in the post this morning

[wishingforcrystalball]

inviting my children or not inviting my children.

AIBU to be disappointed??

I am amazed at how many posts there are about childfree weddings, and also that all of the ones I see always get to 10 pages of posting.

if you let me know your address i'll send you one for next year!

But there will be no invite for kids

I've been to 5 weddings in my entire life (and I'm really old) 2 of which I was a bridesmaid at (ie over 40yrs ago) one evening do (uni friend) one bizarre done-on-the-uber-cheap but we hadn't been told that beforehand and my frock cost more than the entire buffet, 1 posh do in the Rowan Atkinson church in 4 weddings.

I feel blessed to have sensible friends and family who just live in sin for the most part. Saves such angst.

cant we just have some sort of mumsnet list that says

its their day it up to them

you should take the chance to have a lovely day with your oh without kids

you dont have to go if you dont want to

they will have kids in the next couple of years and will realise that they were being twats

no they dont understand that you cant leave your tiny baby

they would have felt bad if they hadnt invited you and have left it up to you to say yes or no

if you have made it clear pre invites being sent that you cant go due to pregnancy or baby dont be upset if you are not invited.

when you have been friends for years and are similar age, major life events often come along at the same time

and just to cover all bases re Hen Nights- if you cant afford it/ dont like it just dont go

I know! I don't understand people getting offended! It's someones wedding...up to them. My kids arent always going to be important to everyone!

God I love it when it says childfree wedding.....god excuse to leave him at his Grandma's for the night and me and the DH drink too much and think it's mighty fine idea to drink Port then slowly wake up with god awful hangover with no child around Don't know why people get so upset by it or still keep posting on here about it. It's their wedding and they can do it how they please.

Only got one wedding invite for this year and have to take my DS as he is pageboy......sweet though it will be seeing him all dressed up but a bit of me does think damn no port drinking for us

Ruelachesty yes please - only so I can post on here, how what do I do that I'm invited to a wedding that I can't take children to!

Maybe I am a bad parent, but if childfree event, I also think great no conscience to battle with I'm going and they are not invited

Good thread! I am a bit bored of threads about weddings too

my wedding is actually 20 months away and i mentioned to a friend that there were no kids invited except my own and our nieces and nephews (7 just now with 2 more on the way atm). I could tell by her face this was a problem and i fully expect a decline after invites are sent. But we have already had to cut our numbers and have some friends as evening guests.

If we invited our friends kids that an additional 35 spaces!!

So unfortunately is not through choice but i agree i'd rather get a babysitter and have a rare night off!

Rue does your friend already have children or is she expecting to have one in 20 months time?

amazed that anyone would see their "no children" invite being a problem with an event happening in 20 months time - thats giving them quite some time to organise childcare

She has two kids already and I know she does quite well for babysitters.

But if it puts her off going then thats her choice, or she can pass up her day invite and come in the evening with her kids, thats no problem.

She went on about how she felt weddings were about families and thats why she had children at hers. I agree, thats why MY family are all invited to ours.

It does get ridiculous. Obviously if anyone has a young baby I will make an exception but otherwise I would have thought people would enjoy a day off.

My 2 are 2.5yo and 9mo and I know that I would not enjoy a wedding if I had to take them.

But its certainly something that is up to each individual bride and groom and they should not be vilified for their choices!

couldn't agree more.

i had a child free wedding bar immediate family, ie, nephews and niece who were pageboys/bridesmaid anyway.

even though i have 2 DC now i'd still do it exactly the same - might invite my own kids too!

My friend is getting married, there are 70 children just from the innermost family & friends list

So with much regret she's only having her dd and dns at the wedding reception!

These people who have lots of friends and get married when they've all started reproducing in mass quantities

YANBU

After some of the threads I've read on here, I'm thinking that if ever I do meet someone and want to marry him that I'll only invite him, of course, and the couple of obligatory witnesses. That way I'm not discriminating against anyone cos I'm treating them all the same