to think that I'm OK with this?

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Or am I going above and beyond "The call of duty??"
DS has just rolled up with long term friend (lovely lad ... every mother's dream!!!) to collect an item. That's no problem.... he takes item amid profuse thanks.
But, in tow is an unknown lad ..... hippyish (and I was really hippyish in my youth!!) who we have never met ..... but apparently he is staying the night!!!
Am I mad ..... he seems very gentle, and unsure. My spidey senses are saying he is "OK" ..... and I'm reasonably good at this sort of thing. I have had a convo with him and he seems to be a decent guy.
But he's apparently staying the night??!!
Am I daft..... or not??
I don't think I am ....I sense he is "decent" IYGWIM"??

If they turn up at short notice I think it's okay to chuck them a couple of blankets and expect them to sleep on the floor. An averagely healthy young person can do this and still function at work the next day.

Again, I think it's great that you accept your DS's friends into your home when you are comfortable with it.

I concur greenbananas ... I have chucked blankets at many a young person before now!!

Just wondered if DS certain people were taking the piss!!

PP - I think if it's been this way all of his life and you have never said anything about it - it's a bit much to ask if he's taking the piss

However, it is your home and if tomorrow, after some consideration you aren't happy with him bringing randoms home (randoms as in not friends you already know) then you are perfectly within your rights to say so.

However... you do need to take a gooooood look at those apron strings. He should be out there, in the world, standing on his own two feet by now... but he's not, he's still at home and if you are all OK with that then great, but needing to have a handle on where he gets to?? It's too much at his age. (SN aside which I assume you would have mentioned).

what do you want, a CRB check on all your son's friends?

why wouldn't it be ok for him to stay?

It really wouldn't be the known/unknown thing at all for me, but the no notice. That would get me back up every time - it's sheer bad manners and I hate that. Your son should be grovelling on that front, he's really put you on the spot. Even a couple of hours notice would be nice.

i would not tidy nor make beds up he can bed down on ds floor for the night.

I never realised you had your DH there! I thought you had a womans instinct abot the lad and were afraid!

Turns out you jut wondered if you were too hospitable! And there's me on about rape and robberry! ROFL!