To think that people should keep their nose out of my breastfeeding business?

[poshsinglemum]

DD is two. I breastfeed her at night because she was ill recently and well; it's just been hell trying to stop although I hope to very soon.

I told my childminder ages ago as she is from a culture where extended breastfeeding is the norm.

I dropped dd off at the childminders today and a new mum who now takes her dd to the cm stopped me on the path outside. She said ''cm tells me that your still breastfeeding your daughter. Dosn't it hurt with the teeth.Also can't she get to sleep on her own?''

I told her that no it dosn't and yes she can.

I was pissed off for a number of reasons. I feel like the childminder has been gossiping about me behind my back. I also feel taht this mum is one of those who feels that extending breastfeeding is disgusting and I can just imagine her gossiping about it in hushed tones.
Last but not least; it's none of her bloody business.

mabe I wouldn't feel like this if braestfeeding was the norm in our society. we can't win; if we fail to breastfeed we are told we are bad mothers; likewise if we braestfeed for too long we are wierd because titties are sexual aren't they? agggggrrrrr!

I do want to stop btw. I jsut have to be in a place whereby I can withstand the screaming at 2 am for a few nights.

By the way this meant I was feeding toddler and baby for 2 years

Why do you think we have two boobs?

oh my goodness

breastfeeding

honestly, whatever next?

allowing the baby to sleep in bed beside you?

letting it lead the way when weaning?

you people will never learn

Thanks Rannaldini !

We pretty much gave up on cots too, and they just slept with us !

She was probably just being curious. I am very open with everyone about BF 2.3 yo DD and as I'm 36 weeks pregnant I get a lot of questions about it. Some of them do come across as a bit nosy but I try to give them the benefit of the doubt and just assume they want to know more about it (their eyes usually glaze over after a couple of minutes anyway). I have the skin of a rhino though

That said, I don't think YABU at all if you don't want to discuss it with people and a quiet word with the CM should hopefully do the trick.

Lots of women have taken me aside to ask me about "still BF" but in a lovely way, in the "I hope you don't mind me asking because me and DC are too...." kinda way. That's because I happily fed DS in public etc if he wanted to, until we stopped (21 months). I had no issues with being a BF mother and was infact very proud.

The comments this woman made were clearly NOT in this vein. However, for all you know, she was told the info in a good way but clearly has archaic views that are not, well, good, iyswim?

Your child minder has been a bit unreasonable, but I would probably roll with it. Think of it as providing an education?!

oh yeah, and what rannaldini said. Remember for future use?

If breastfeeding is normal to the childminder perhps she did not think that it is an issue to mention it.

What was the other persons tone of voice when she asked about breastfeeding? perhaps she is just curious?

I breastfed {sad that it has just stopped) until ds was 2 1/2 and it wouldn't have bothered me people asking about breastfeeding.

But the "can't she sleep on her own" seems a bit judgy though and an implied critiscm.

I didn't waant to give up so suddenly, but one day ds just looked at boobs, blew aa raspberry and turned up his nose at them.

It doesnt sound as if she was being nasty about it

I also wouldnt say it was inappropriate as it is about you not your child, and if she is also an ex-bfer then hardly likely to be spiteful gossip

I don't know why I'm bothered at all. I think it needs to be normalised so I'm glad I wasn't horrid in my response.

if breasfeeding offends them, they may put a blanket over their head! ;D