To leave 4.5 yo DD home alone

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For 40 mins or so while I pick DD2 up from nursery?

DD1 off school poorly today, slept all morning, ate breakfast first thing but nothing since. She is snuggled up with me on the sofa in her pjs. I don't really want to take her out in cold and rain to get lil sis but don't feel I can justify leaving her, even though she's v sensible and probably won't leave the sofa. No neighbours around to keep an eye on her.

What would you do?

I had to take my 2 year old out when she had JUST fallen and smacked her head and thrown up...we had to get big sis from school before we could go to hospital! Twas awful. I feel for you...hope she's better tonight.

She has a car. OMFG.
We have no car, and is 45 mins walk to nursery and back and it wouldn't even cross my mind to leave a four year old.
I really don't understand why that question was even on here.
Bit worrying really.

NorthernLurker, you're right, and I apologise.

I will now feel secure in asking people 'are you out of your mind?' knowing that they will take it as a genuinely concerned enquiry into their wellbeing, and not hold you responsible, EVER, for broken friendships, endless AIBU threads about 'to think my friend is over-reacting' and offending my MIL .

OP - glad you have come to your senses found a good solution.

Please don't ring social services because somebody's mother asked a very stupid question on an interweb forum. We're all home now without incident or accident. Thanks for your time.

YABVU - despite the fact the McCanns would ague that it's ok and just 'modern parenting' it is never safe to leave a shild that young on their own.

I understand not wanting to move her but please take her with you.

No way. Wrap her in a blanket and put her in the car.

OMG I cannot even believe you would consider leaving a 4.5 year old at home alone.

If I was your neighbour I would call SS.

I think that it is good to start giving DCs independence, but not a 4 yr old! Don't do it.

I took her. We're home. Social Services can stand down. Thanks to those of you who recognised that for what it was, a moment of self-doubt in a difficult day, a question not an answer.
You can never tell with aibu, there could easily have been a contingent telling me not to take her, what's the worst that could happen (LeQueen clearly that's the worst that could happen), it's not going to start raining hammers in your house is it etc etc. Obviously there wasn't but no harm done, I'll just trust my clearly very dubious instincts going forward.

The OP read to me as if she wasn't seriously considering it, it had just gone through her mind at one point and she wanted confirmation that it would be madness.

Hope your DD gets better soon.

YABU

Yes - if somebody says something totally absurd - and then carries on defending it you can hurl pitchforks merrily - I'll jin you! When they say 'err yes you're right' though it really is time to lay off a bit.

Blu - yes you can happily use that non judgemental, totally unloaded enquiry as often as you like Will never, ever get you in to a sticky situation

i think youre all right nasty bitches making her worry about social services, she asked a silly question, came to her senses and didn't do anything wrong. What a load of bullies.

Aw thanks, you are kind, I am an idiot though

phew, glad you saw sense. double phew actually. hope she's better soon.,

I leave my 8 yr old alone at home for an hour or so (and have posted an aibu about it - was so scared of the white hot flames that I name changed ) and I know a lot of people think I am being VVVU to do so. I think you're very brave (or very naive) to post the even the inkling of an idea of leaving of leaving a 4 yr old at home alone on aibu. Couldn't you sense the impending inferno??

TBH I was a at the idea of leaving a sick 4 yr old at home on her own, but as others have said, you came swiftly to your senses and didn't do so. Don't let the flamethrowers get to you; you were obviously under a bit of stress to even consider the idea, so pour yourself a glass of wine and relax now.

the even the inkling.

I think too young & far too long. I left DD (7) for 10 mins to take DS1 to school, but she wasn't being sick and even then I wasn't totally happy about it. But she was ill and sound asleep. I left her a note and I didn't even park the car at school, he jumped out and ran in so it was only 10 mins.