to have wanted to see my brother tonight

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I went to see my mum and stepdad tonight. We were just talking and I asked where my brother was as he'd normally come and see me. My stepdad said that he was in his room due to his dreadful behaviour and disrespectful attitude. I said I'd go up and see him and my stepdad said no he's not allowed to see anyone because he needs to think about his behaviour. Apparently this is going to happen for the rest of the week he is to come home from school where he is to stay in his room except for going to the toilet and having dinner. AIBU to have wanted to see him and to think this is extremely harsh

YABU he'd been sent to his room as a punishment, probably a big part of that punishment was not being allowed to see you. How old is by the way

He's 12

Without knowing what his behaviour is you can't judge.

In fact you can't judge anyway (unless you think he is being mistreated) as he is their son not yours.

Sorry unless you see him a couple of times a year and this is your one visit (which it doesn't sound as though it is) then you need to support them

Depends on how often you are over and/or how far you came from.

If you drop by 3x per week yabu, if you live in Antarctica and are only over for the next 3 days you are definitely nbu.

I do visit fairly often

YABU. he was being punished. Without knowing what he has done, its hard to say if it is harsh or not.

YANBU it does seem very harsh, to not allow him to see his sister at all. Is your mum/stepdad always this harsh

YABU. He has been punished for a reason. Whether you think it's reasonable or not, your parents have decided on this course of action.

If its an isolated incident then YABU but the fact you posted here suggests that you suspect if only subconsciously that there is something fishy going on. Is your stepdad your brothers dad?

YABU he was being punished and its not for you to interfere and you don't have all the facts anyway.

YABU its not going to have killed you or him

I think YABU since you see him regularly, tbh.
If you make this rule as a sanction and then start making exceptions, it won't be a very effective punishment, IMVHO.

Is your stepdad your brother's father?

I think it's a harsh punishment and can't imagine what he did to deserve it.

I am always very wary of people who continue with their punishment over a long period of time. To me, it shows a coldness that I really dislike.

No my stepdad isn't my brothers dad

i would be concerned especially if its the step dad making these decisions,what does your mum say about it.for it to carry on all week is over the top, to be grounded all week is one thing but to be grounded and made to stay in your room is something else.

What had he done?

I agree with cat64, and disagree with pinkstarlight.

What does it matter whether the stepfather is her brother's dad. The parents are (hopefully) acting consistently and in agreement with each other.

YABU he was being punished and you should respect that

one of the reasons i split with my x was because he didnt treat my daughter right (his step daughter)he tried to find reasons to punish her over nothing. sorry but being as his sister hasnt had a chance to speak to her brother and the op hasnt really said what her mums take on this i would be concerned.