hello. i signed on tonight for the first time as my sister advised me that it might help. My 4 yr old is showing all the same anxieties that you have descibed. i returned to work full time in June, and now she goes to a child minder 2 days a week(tues weds) nanny an grandad have her mon and fri and I have thursdays. On Monday night she woke at 3am and started crying at the thought of going to childminder. She sits in the mornung curled on the sofa with tears appearing in her eyes and falling down her cheeks. When she's there and busy she's fine, but during the quiet time, tears well up. shes an only child and I thought that she'd really enjoy the company of other children. Im at my wits end as its breaking my heart. The food control is also something that is concerning me and funny enough she's only choosing the fruit and veg to eat! She also appears to be quite anti males at the moment(except daddy and grandad) ive tried reward charts and special treats but nothing stops the heart felt sobs. She is at preschool doesnt start big school until Sept. Any help would be greatful