to not want to put candles on a birthday cake - but make a mini cake for them?

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I have a bit of an odd phobia about birthday candles - and spit (i know...i know!)

Well - can i make a main cake and then make a smaller cake on the side as it were for the candles - so the whole "candle" thing is covered but not on the main cake everyone eats?

I know I'm weird but this is freaking me out already and I have at least 18 birthday cakes ahead of me for my yet to be born DS!

By the time your DS needs a birthday cake, a bit of spittle will be the least of your worries

I know you don't belive me, but really it will

really? I'm panicking already about his first birthday cake? I just have these images of my MIL helping him blow out the candles, and me having to eat a slice of cake covered in MIL's spit.... (she's that type that would help!)

Would it be so odd?

Invent a new tradition of blowing them out with a hairdryer

Does seem a rather odd phobia - but I have heard of worse!

LOL. By then he'll have eaten things she's licked to "clean" them.

Sorry, not helping am I?

It would be odd, but one of the great things that happen when you become a mum is that you don't care if people think you're odd, in fact it's your job to be odd!

Congratulations BTW.

For the first birthday you get a big '1' candle which can sit by the side of the cake and you can position it so you don't blow onto the cake IYSWIM!

After that, you make cakes which you can make candle holders for which sit on the side - for instance, DS2 had a Postman Pat van cake last year which I was b***ed if I was going to put candles in, so I made small parcels for them to go in. Problem solved!

You could do a cup cake style cake like <a class="break-all" href="http://pictures.augustow.pl/view.php?q=Cupcake%20Birthday%20Cake%20Pictures&url=www.kidspot.com.au/files/Food_Content/cupcake_birthday_cake.jpg" rel="nofollow" target="_blank">this and keep one spit free for yourself

I had thirty two candles in my cake last year. The whole thing was covered in wax, and the fire station was on standby.

Could you just use the number shaped candles so for the first 9 years there will only be one to blow out....can't imagine much spit from blowing out one candle.

just dont eat any of the cake! simples..

or no candles at all. sparklers... just wait for them to go out.

See - i knew there'd be some great suggestions on here to stop me panicking!

well - apart from charliesmommy - no chance!!!!

I share your horror of cakes covered in spit from blowing out candles. What is even worse is when someone insists that lots of children have a go at blowing out the candles (usually at family birthday teas where there are few children present and a parent doesn't want their LO to miss out).
Being squeamish my tactics so far are:
1 - do not take a slice (often b'day cakes are disgustingly sweet and covered in thick icing.
2 - Take off top layer of icing as it is too sweet.
When I am organising the party it is fine as if I also make fairy/cup cakes and keep some away from small hands and mouths for me .
As regards dcs when they were v little I would take the top layer of icing off and as they grew older, cake often went into party bags where it would end up squashed and then thrown out.

Pretend you don't like icing and so just eat the sponge. Let everyone else make their own decision about whether or not they'll be eating the cake.

We have 2 cakes.

One is the one the birthday child has chosen from Tescos from the lumps-of-cardboard-sponge-covered-in-fluorescent-icing-to-look-like-the-fave-TV-character-of-the-moment range. The kids eat a quarter of a slice each and then goes in party bags, or sits on the side for a week before being binned.

The other is a homemade chocolate cake that we actually want to eat. And it doesn't matter if it is lopsided or I don't get around to icing it, cos we took photos of the other one. It just has to taste good.

Candles go on the first one.

But really. Ds spends half his day playing with his willy, and the other half sucking his thumb. Spit will be the least of your worries.

Ha ha - love the last comment fruitful

Pmsl at fruitful's last sentence!

You can actually buy birthday candle holders, made from wood, in shape of a train or caterpiillar- Funky Moose have them, and I'm sure lots of other places, Haba make one... they are just on the table, not attached to a cake, but look gorgeous.

But yes... after a few years of being a parent, the idea of only spit being on your food will be lovely! (DS regularly tries to feed me pre-chewed morsels... he is quite insistent)

I have that phobia too! I aso have other related ones which I wont talk about.

I dont think YABU at all....just say "Oh who wants one that's been sprayed over!

Or "oh I couldn't spoil the icing!