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Hi, I'm quite scared about posting here - please be nice! :)

I have a little boy who is going to start school this September, and my husband and I want to have another baby and after much thought (I suffered severe post partum depression last time) decided that trying for a baby next month would be the best because the baby would only be due in October meaning I'd have a month off work to settle my little boy into school first.

Anyway, I was chatting about this on Facebook to someone and a friend of mine (who has recently been doling out a number of comments which are a little strange) typed "Well have you thought the baby could come early?"

AIBU to be a bit taken aback/annoyed at this? Obviously I know things don't always go to plan and babies arrive early (or late!) but surely it doesn't mean I can't at least try to organise my life for the best of all concerned?

Or am I being silly and making something out of nothing?

Thanks for any responses.

YABU and making something out of nothing! :)

Yes, I think you are making something out of nothing. It was an annoying comment - but they are bound to happen.

Okay, cool! lol :)

Hello,

I think possibly something out of nothing. Things never come out the way you intend when you're typing rather than talking and everyone always has an opinion when it comes to babies.
AND if you were sharing something so personal on FB she probably thought it was fair game.

FWIW, my advice would be take what she said on board (as she's not actually wrong) and then do whatever you want to do anyway.

Good luck!

Have you though that although you start trying for a baby next month doent mean you will get preganant straight away, unless your like me and only have to drop your knickers

Seriously though, you cant really organise things like this. What if you pregnant in 3 or 4 months will you be able to settle your wee boy ok and still be working?

Hiya, yes you're probably right - just to alter the context slightly it was a chat within a closed private group on FB so I wasn't just plastering it on my wall, I think I've become a little sensitive as she's made so many little comments lately it's had a chip chip effect and I feel a bit like I can't say anything around her as she'll make a negative comment!

YANBU

It's not unreasonable to plan your life to best suit you, we all know it doesn't always go to plan - but it makes a good starting point.

Maybe she was well intentioned though, maybe she was just suggesting you leave a bit more margin between DS starting school and the new baby arriving.

If you wanted my opinion I would say I would avoid your timing like the plague. Many/most/almost all children are hard work when they start school, they are bloody exhausted and generally need more of your time/attention. Also, most schools do this mixture of part days etc so you seem to be back and forth to school a lot - if I was going to 'plan' another baby, I wouldn't plan it until the second school term.

MrsPrseley, oh definitely. I can settle my little boy in school fine working but my worry was if I had a baby in late August/September and was either in hospital having him or her or got unwell again after the birth, you see.

Thanks ChippingIn x

My baby girl was born last may, and my eldest girl started school in september, so when baby was 3 months old. It was an accidental pregnancy but I was glad that we would all have a few months together first before my eldest started school as I did not want her to think that we were having the baby and then she was being pushed out to school iyswim?

Though she was already at preschool but this was optional and only 3 hours a day.

And my eldest has been a little madam the last few weeks. Most of her little friends are also going through it as well and it is hard enough to cope with a 7 month old and her at the moment but for me would have been a lot worse to have had a newborn!

There is nothing wrong with planning but obviously nothing ever goes entirely to plan. You may not conceive as quickly as you hope, or baby could come early- or be late lol!

And people have a habit of making annoying comments but I would not take them personally. Some people cant help themselves!

Thanks, jester. You're so right about the annoying comments, I need to grow a thicker skin! Hope you're enjoying your new baby girl (well not so new now!) x

Would second what others have said, maybe she was just thinking you shouldn't try so soon, because if baby is early you will have your work cut out

They are so tired and topsy turvy when they start school. You will need all your energy. I would wait a few more months if I were you!