to want to be able to cook in my own effing kitchen?!

[sunshineleah]

Right. Have not had a great day, so am aware I may be being unreasonable, BUT;

I have just arrived home after going to pick DP up from work (10 min drive vs 2hours on public transport!) We live with another couple atm, one of whom was in when I went off to get him.

Arrived back to find housemate in the kitchen, using all of the hobs AND the oven. Because she has decided (at tea time, when she knew I was about to pick up DP from work & would be back really soon) to cook not 1, but TWO evening meals. I can only presume she is doing this so that she doesn't have to cook tomorrow too.

I feel the need to add that we usually manage to share the hobs / oven well and often cook our evening meals at the same time without a problem.

AIBU to think she is being thoughtless? DP made a comment about us getting Domino's for our tea now, and I asked why she couldn't just cook 1 meal, so that everyone in the house could eat rather than just her and her dp... I may have been a tad snippy, which I think might have BU, but snippy-ness aside think I am in the right...

(ducks)

She is your lodger? If not and you're all renting together, it's tough tits although a bit inconsiderate. If she is lodging in your house, I would kick her in the fanjo.

I can completely see where your coming from, it would have been nice if she could have been a little more considerate. Did you ask her how come she was cooking the two meals? Maybe she has a half good reason for doing it? Would she have presumed you would eat out with DP? From your post it wasn't easy to determine whether it is your place and they are just lodging or if it's their place and your lodging. I'm guessing it might be their place? If it is then she may have claims to using the cooker when ever shed like and you need to fit around it??

Not going to presume either way and it's hard to judge either way, but I think i'd feel like the other woman was being a little bit unreasonable ;).
x

Maybe she thought you were going to be out longer than you actually were and thought she'd make use of the extra space in the kitchen. Just a thought.

hah! try sharing with six other people like I am! We have to stagger cooking for this very reason!

Since you haven't had a great day, kick her in the fanjo anyway BUT (crucially) only do this in your head.... There! Doesn't that feel better? Now, get a Dominos and have a massive glass of wine and sod her.

hahaha! Mental fanjo kicking has comenced, and yes, yes I do feel better.

We are all sharing together, so neither of us has 'dibs' on the kitchen really... she did say when we were faffing around with the pizza menu 'oooh I love cooking when I'm not actually going to eat the meal... now when I get home tomorrow all I hav to do is pop it in the microwave [smug smug smug]'

I did point out the inconvenience but I don't think she really got it.

Hey ho, I am now fed and have wine in me and have mentally kicked her in the ouch. ha.

Pinksticks, I don't think I could cope with sharing a kitchen 6 ways... you have my utmost sympathy!!!