to be really unhappy with people pointing out how much weight I put on in pregnancy

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Its not implied, they SAY it. :(

I actually only put on 6lbs, but it easily LOOKS like 2 stone at least, I guess as I was so inactive as I was ill.

I'm still BF my DS so cant diet, and eat quite healthily anyway.

:(

Sorry I misunderstood your OP thought you were currently pregnant.

IN your case I woudl be fucked off! Especially if you only gained 6 pounds

YANBU. I'm getting this right now. for first 4 months tummy was practically flat but now baby seems to be having a growth spurt and my bump has got loads bigger overnight.

Wish people would realise it's really bloody rude. I mean my boss has a fat arse and while I bitch about it with my collegues ignore this fact I would never thing it appropriate to actually bring it up in conversation.

YANBU. They are being outrageous. How DARE they say anything to you. Tell them to fuck off then get back to enjoying your lovely baby.

AB12 how you haven't killed that nosy, ignorant old idiot of a neighbour is beyond me. You deserve a medal.

Why thank you Dublin!

he winds me right up, tbh. he and his wife recently went on a holiday to Thailand, and he opined that 'western women let themselves go'. I agree Thai women are frequently utterly beautiful, but when he was sitting in his t-shirt with his beer belly showing.....

I had to sit on my hands, for the sake of peace.

When people say such hurtful things, they are really insecure about their own weight and are trying to project it onto you. Ignore them. Happy people would never say anything like that.

When people say such hurtful things, they are really insecure about their own weight and are trying to project it onto you. Ignore them. Happy people would never say anything like that.

When people say such hurtful things, they are really insecure about their own weight and are trying to project it onto you. Ignore them. Happy people would never say anything like that.

You could try saying something like "Ooh. That was a very rude thing to say. Did you realise you were being so rude? Or did you think it would be helpful in some way? because it isn't, it's just rude. Are you always rude? Or have you singled me out specially?"

The trick is to go on and on and on and on about it. I haven't met a rude bugger yet that hasn't crumpled eventually in the face of this technique.

If something's true and worth saying, it's worth saying three times hammy

Sorry about that. New laptop. Still getting used to it!

I got this loads. I am 5'2" and when you are carrying an 8lb 12oz baby (DS1) it has to go somewhere, ie outwards. And yes, I put on some fat. You're meant to.

Those people don't laugh about my weight gain any more, as I lost it all and returned to my usual size 6 self. I think it was just hilarious to them at the time because they are used to being overweight all of the time, and thought I was going to join their club.

It is ALWAYS about the person making nasty comments, NEVER about you.

I have no idea why people do this. They did it to me too. Why was it funny to always chuckle 'sure you aren't having twins?'. Ha ha. Haven't heard that one before. I was so fed up that I responded to that one, 'Yes I am, but you clearly are' (they weren't pregnant but a little chubby). It was pretty rude of me, but hey I had hormones and was sick and tired of the remarks and 'jokes'.

OP - that is ridiculous, you only put on 6lb!

AB12 - your neighbour needs telling!

Grrrrr, I can picture him AB12, bet he has his poor wife totally browbeaten and submissive - she would batter him with a shovel in the night otherwise. Also bet he justifies his rude, tactless, utterly crass remarks b saying he's "just being honest". Not always the best policy you silly little man.

Ahem! Sorry to sound so violent. Treat him with the contempt he deserves.

I gained 56lbs this time with DC3....she is 4 weeks old and I am still 25lbs over my pre preg weight so 6lbs is pretty good going. I was huge, massive and people were not shy of pointing it out, one stupid woman gasped when I said I was only 6 months and said you're huge.........and she isn't what you would call slim (fat cow bag) I mean what do you say, fuck off you fat old bint, I think not

Thanks guys, I've never seen a unanimous AIBU before :)

Must emphasise though, the 6lbs is freakish, I have no idea how it is so little. I def only weigh 6lbs more but have gone up two dress sizes. NOTHING I own fits me, not even most of my maternity clothes!! :( I must have lost a lot of muscle mass is the only explanation I can think of...?

I cant imagine it helps the overall picture that my C cups are up to an E though. Blegh. Am 25 and have big, saggy, veiny boobs!!

Am liking very much the idea of going on about how rude they are. Now just have to contain tearful outburst (a la teenager) long enough to say it.