To sell 21st birthday gift from Dad because I am skint

[somewhatskint]

I have namechanged for this as I feel it makes me a bit identifiable.

My Dad bought me a personalised number plate for my 21st birthday 6 years ago. Not to everyone's taste I know but something of a family tradition!

He was delighted to have found a plate with my name on that he could afford. I found it all a bit flash but was grateful.

Roll on 6 years. DP and I are on a vv tight budget. Partly due to the recession, and because I have chosen to work PT, 3 days per week 9-5. This is to allow me to spend time with young DCs, and something that for me and our DCs I feel is the right thing to do. I love our time together and do not plan to work more hours until school or if we cannot get by on our income.

We manage, but with little left for 'extras' and our home needs some TLC.

I want to sell the plate. Dad was mortified and pretty upset saying this was a special gift. He knows our financial situation.

It is not worth masses, maybe £2k on a good day (online value sites are confusing, I need to do some digging). However that would hopefully allow us to: do up our shambles of a bathroom; small renovations to bring house back to life; buy some storage; emergency fund e.g. for boiler breakdown.

I should add that I work for my Dad and TBH feel underpaid. I have tackled him about this and he says times are hard.... He has a point and I am undecided as to whether he is being fair or not. That is a for another thread, I have only mentioned it to avoid AIBU by stealth.

Opinions gratefully received, hard hat is on.....

Can you say that you really do need the £2K and ask him if he could lend it to you in return for him holding onto the plate.

Maybe you can explain your finances to him (if you and DH are willing)so that he understand your outgoings?

I think if it is not attached to a car, and just sitting around doing nothing then sell it.

If it can do as much as is needed in your home then go for it.

Far better to be c omfortable with a new bathroom which would only cost around £400 if your OH is fitting it than driving around in a private number plated car.

With regards to the wage issue, I guess you are in part comfortable with what he pays because you know when it picks up so will your wages, however there is no excuse for paying you less than someone else he would have to employ.

Hope if necessary you are supplementing your income with tax and child tax credits.