To want to smother my husband

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With a pillow. He lying next to me snoring like a pneumatic drill. Shut. The. Fuck. Up.

No amount of gentle shaking/nudging/kicking in shins is working so am considering more drastic measures. That or divorce

I use ear plugs - have done for years - probably easier than divorce! But sometimes even they are not enough! I tickle his armpits or just pull the covers off - that seems to wake him enough for me to get back to sleep.

My DH had the assessment for the op to trim the palate etc but was told there was only a 60% chance of it working and it would be very painful - he declined. He DOES have to sleep in the spare room if he has a cold as it's then even worse.

I remember a boyfriend's parents who had separate rooms at either end of the house. As a teenager I was horrified, with thoughts of "is this how marriage really is?" Now as a mature woman I view this arrangement as sensible and the only way to sustain a marriage. No f""ts under the duvet, no snoring and peaceful, rested humans that come together each morning. Whoever got rid of the 1950's penchance for separate bedrooms/beds did us women a dis service...

I usually remove one of the pillows. It tilts his head downwards and he stops.

Been there with ear plugs, spare room, etc. Husband not overweight, just snored ALOT. We even had to book separate rooms on holiday after one holiday where I did not manage to sleep at all for an entire week.

He now uses a CPAP and never snores. Life-changer. He got it on the NHS (although I think that's been hit by the latest wave of cuts). Seriously, worth the investment if you can't get it on the NHS. Everyone I know who's tried one finds it a total cure. It has changed my life and allowed him to keep living.

My DH claims that I am making it up. Must buy dictaphone, or install CCTV with sound. I am surprised he does not wake himself up, tbh. Oh, and then he gets up at 05.45 and clatters around getting up and out to work.

I never would have thought that snoring and sleeping could be the real deal breaker in marriage, but now have 3 years of married experience and know I deserve a sodding medal for living with it!

I feel for you - mine has sleep apnoea and was a quite a bit overweight a few years ago - it got really bad four years ago just when my DS was born - so bad I could hear him at the other end of the house through 3 closed doors! I did not actually get a night's sleep for 2 years - he then got the machine (thank god) and I had a week of sleep before DD was born!!

Now he has lost weight it is fine without the machine. Advice - get him to loose weight, you could try some of the snore sprays and throat gargles available in the chemists (works sometimes)and get his dentist to check him out (tooth alignment or something can be a cause) and a sleep study for sleep apnoea. all this will probably be enough to stop him!!