in thinking it was wrong of this person to put this on FB status

[tomhardyismydh]

...was sad to hear a young man at (insert local sevondary schools name) has comitted suicide today.

I found it very insensitive, its sunday and other kids and parents from the school will read this and this could create gossip and upset to lots of people who do not have the facts.

i think the silly woman should have not put anything and hope the school will deal with this sensitivly tomorrow.

I wouldn't even message her tbh, the fact that no-one has commented on her status update says it all really. YANBU to think it's inappropriate.

I found out via Facebook, a few months ago, that my lover of 13 years had died. He had been seeing a girl (she was only about 20) for a few weeks before he died and she posted messages on his page about "being with him soon" on an almost hourly basis for weeks after he died - the first one was put up within an hour of him being found dead... (call me sentimental, but the last thing on my mind would have been "oooh, how shall I word this on Facebook") I wasn't the only person to find it tasteless and crass to wallow in it all so openly.

Another friend lost her DD and MIL (who was my godmother) quite recently. Both tragic, but WHY she felt the need to comment every 5 mins about it all on Facebook is completely beyond me. Again, I found out about the death of my godmother via FB rather than by someone taking hte time to call me before sticking neon signs all over the internet.

Perhaps I'm just too British, but I really think that some things should not be discussed in such an open forum.

quietly a very good point, id never really considered it like that, but now you mention that I do agree.

apparently she has been to the school now to pay tribe and thousands of kids where there. she is now sensationalising it, silly woman.

oh and next staus update was glad she has all her kids around her.

Just to add - an ex Facebook "friend" of mine posted each and every detail of her father's last painful days of dying of cancer, then created a Facebook group to commemorate his life. She then requested all of her Facebook "friends" to change their profile pictures to her dad's picture for one day in memory of him. Mind you this is a girl I went to school with over 20 years ago, not someone I see at all on a regular basis.

And another ex-Facebook friend posted update after update of her brother's mortorbike accident and then posted pictures of herself with him in his hospital bed.

Where do you draw the line with people like this? I have never messaged these people directly to let them know how wrong I felt it was though, after all I guess they can post what they like if they so wish to. So I just removed them from friends because it annoyed me so much.

After a while, seeing some people's status updates, links, pictures and comments are almost like getting junk mail.

I fail to see the attraction of Facebook - and why some people need to post updates every five minutes of what they are doing, be it going to the loo/going out/washing up etc is beyond me. I'm too busy for all that nonsense usually.

Sites like it are here to stay though, unfortunately and people will post what they want.

My son read of a death of one of his ex school friends on FB just before Xmas - natural causes. People who had heard had passed it round etc, same as gossiping on the phone, texting a mate, or chatting to someone you meet in the street really. 'Did you hear that so and so died'.............

It's just another form of communication, be it good or bad.

facebook is something that most people on here just dont seem to get. thats why you find it odd that people post so much of their lives on there. because you dont understand it.
I never understood the whole going out ot the pub thing for years and years. I mean, why go to a place where you have to buy drinks to meet your friends when you can do the same thing at home, for less money?
oR TExting? i never understood it. if you had something to say, then for just call the person. why bother with texting and textspeak.

its a culture thing. for some people, facebook is the place to express themselves. its not sad. its not desperate, its attention seeking only sometimes. It is just different to whatever you know, and are used to.