to just want DH to put the kids to bed quickly??

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We have 3 6 and under and I mm pg and tired.

Hes a fantastic dad and devotes all his time to them. He constantly talks, plays, reads and makes things with them. Its like I have 3 sons really

BUT when it comes to bedtime I want him to just put them to bed.

When I've done it in the past I taken them up, washed, dressed into bed, sotory, kisses - 15 mins max.

He takes them up 30 mins before their bed time, plays lego or whatever, builds a racing tracjk, they usually end up staying up playing past 7, then he reads them several stories and gets in bed with DS2 for nightime cuddles (10 minutes of ... timed by DS's bedtime musiv bear) but he almost ALWAYS falls asleep with DS and like tonight its 9pm hes been up there for 2 hours now and we will have hardly anytime together before my knackered pregnant body will have to drag itself to bed.

I appreciate hes a fab dad but considering he spends so much time with them anyways i don't think its unreasonable to say to them bedtime is story and bed.
Or should I just be grateful he does it and just lump the fact we never get any time alone??

Does he know that you would like to have some time with him?
I say YANBU because the couple of hours I get in the evening with dh are very important to me. However I know that if he had the choice he would have dd stay up longer so he could see her more as his time with her is limited by long hours. She, however is knackered by 6.30pm most evenings (only 9 months!).
IS your dh SAHD or does he work?

They won't be young forever, OP. If he's at work during the day then the time he has before bedtime is even more special.

He does things differently to you.

(You are wanting to call the shots).

Your dh and the dc must be enjoying the way he does things otherwise there would be crying by now.

On balance I think yabu.

Hes not in work at the moment for medical reasons so we are both here.

I've told him that DS is happy with a story and a kiss, but DS knows thats my limit, iykwim, whereas he expects more from dad so probably would play up for a while,

but when this baby comes we will need to get the 2 boys in their room and also dd (who will be 2.5yrs) in her room and have a newborn so we really need to cut the time it takes to get them to bed down anyways!

compromise. I think he sounds totally amazing but let him know you need a bit of attention too!

your lucky dc

Difficult one, I compromise by letting them stay up late and doing more exciting things with Daddy on Fri and Sat nights, if he's still around on Sun (he works away) then it's 7.30pm bedtime ready for school. So, I think being a bit flexible is good, if they are not too knackered the next day; if their behaviour is terrible or they are getting overtired and can't sleep, then have a word with him.