to think my son should be grateful?

[bobala]

I am helping to manage my 14yr old's football team tomorrow as his manager is off. He has spent the week drawing me plans of player positions and explaining why he should be allowed to player further up the pitch for a change. I have now received the plan from the manager, which apparently is 'the worst plan I have ever seen' and my son is sulking and generally behaving like a 2 year old, while moaning on that as I am in charge I should be able to play him where he wants. If I hadn't stepped up there would be no match tomorrow in the first place, instead I am getting teenage angst! GGRRRR

Stick him on the bench?

But how's it going to look to the rest of the team if, on the one day you're in charge, your DS gets to play in a different position that, I'm guessing, everyone knows he's been hankering after?

my point exactly! and it turned out the manager's plan included my son playing midfield for the 2nd half - but oh no, apparently that's not good enough!

Haha, YABU expecting a 14 yr old to be grateful for anything ... I'm sure he's a darling really

Lol at 14 and grateful used in conjunction with each other

Lol at child and grateful being used in comparison with each other!

Conjunction I meant of course.

bobala ask your son which he would prefer - to play where his manager has said he should play or to sit on the bench for the whole game which is where i would put him for his tantrum.

or how does he feel about cutting up the half time oranges and being responsible for the cleaning of the kit afterwards.....

stick him on the ben ch

Advise your son you have to go by what the Manager says as he knows best, you cannot show favouratism towards your son because you are in effect Managing tomorrow.

Why would your son be grateful?

all true - have decided to get my own back by running the line for the match - his Mum, in charge, in a tracksuit, running - what more could he want!

Tell him he's got to play where the manager says or he doesn't play at all.

He did as he was told, one half in defence, second half up front and totally proved his own point by scoring twice! He also further redeemed himself by thanking me and the co managers for giving him the opportunity. One proud Mum

Sounds like it worked out perfectly! Well done to bobala's son.

Glad it all worked out well in the end

This referee and mad footie fan says WELL DONE BOBALA'S SON! :)

Well done OP its not easy coaching a team with a family member in it. I coached my brothers football team when the coach was ill and it caused no end of difficulties.