to think dpil could at least pretend to give a stuff about their grandchildren.

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we have spoken to them twice over xmas, when they phoned at 10pm on xmas day, obviously knowing the dc would be in bed and once when dh phoned them. dd2 has started school thios week and I would have thought since they are always claimed to adore the dc that they could have phoned her. I have actually been having dreams about them I am so upset by the fact that they just clearly csant be bothered with us, they wont come and see us as is too complicated although they can get on a plane to see sil several times a year, they saw the dc once this year and spent the whole time telling them not to do stuff. The dc are always on about them and how much they love them and ppil this and that, they didnt even manage to spend the dc a present event hough I managed to send theirs. I need to find a way to stop letting it upset and realise that they are losing out but I cant help but feel for dc.

You're not alone. I'm always getting texts and emails from MIL saying how much she wants to see us but when she turns up she spends 5 minutes with DD then sits with us Fir an hour talking about herself, then she goes home. It upsets DD because she loves her nan so DH is going to speak to her about it (spend time with DD when you come over, or don't come over).

dmil actuaslly phoned dh to have a go that she hadnt seen him for over a year, I took the dc down to theirs once but the dc are badly car sick so have to have phnergan which I dont like, they dont sleep when we are there and the second they have gone to sleep dfil puts his music on full blast as it is their time now, I get up at the crack withg dc and after having noit a second to myself end up tired and porobably more cranky than I should be, all they ever want to talk about is dsil's wedding or dsil's reallu rich fiance or dsil's really rich fiance's family.

I still cant get over the fact that they havent called to talk to dd2 about school.

Mine are all the same. It doesn't affect my kids AT ALL but bothers me and my husband quite a bit. Were they crap parents too by any chance?

they were good parents, although dh's grandparents lived with them as well and bore the brunt of the childcare. his mum was a reception teacher and brown owl or whatever they are called, just my kids she doesnt want to be around . Dsil is fantastic so I dont want anyone to thin I am ranting about her, although she isd clearly the one who has followed the path that dpil chose and dh is quite obviously a dissapointment as we have noi money and arent bothered about stuff like that.

Same here dita. DMil soo proud of DH's sister. She has achieved not a great deal in life compared to DH but she married someone well off so therefore she is a success while he is not. As for my parents, well that's a whole thread in itself... I feel your pain. It is their loss, I promise you the kids won't care. I am toying with the idea of adopting a GRANNY LOCALLY! sorry for caps, crying baby so got to go.

my mum is fantastic with the kids so the kids arent missing out, the other day dd2 was wearing a cardi that dmil had bought for dd1 and dd1 got really upset because nanni had bought it but it doesnt fit her because that was 3 years ago.