Sick people should be more considerate

[Vicky08]

I have a one month old baby who has a urine infection and a bit of a temp. He's not been admitted to hospital because he's responding well to the antibiotics at home and is still eating well and putting on weight. My PIL know this and have come to visit us today. When they arrived it was obvious that FIL has a bad cold and MIL announced that she has a stomach bug and has diarreah. I am fuming, they knew the baby is ill, and even if he wasn't, he's only a month old FGS so why couldn't they just stay at home until they are better.

It's not only them that do this, I remember once a work collegue came to work with a really bad cold and temperature, she thought she was being a good employee but she gave her virus to about half the office.

AIBU to think that people with contagious illnesses likes colds and flu should think more about others?

YANBU it was very selfish of them to come over. Difficult situation with regards to work, my employers have always look unfavourably on the argument that I should stay off when sick so as not to infect everyone else as it meant they would have to get cover for me. But your PIL should have stayed away. Hope your DS gets better soon.

Visiting a one month old baby with a sickness bug is unforgiveable in my opinion. Worse than struggling into the office with a cold, although that annoys me as well. Babies can get really sick with losing fluids etc, I would personally have asked her to leave and I am not exaggerating!

YANBU about your ILs - they shouldn't come over if they could give a 4 week old baby D&V.

Re being ill at work, it's not always that simple. Some people get paid by the hour or day, some get very limited paid sick leave, some have insanely hectic jobs and just need to plod on.

YANBU.... I'm at home feeling very sorry for myself suffering with a bad cold and called in sick this week, missing an important 3 day work conference. I know for a fact that folk will be saying 'it's only a cold, you should have made it' but actually I was way too ill to travel and attend (even if it is 'just' a cold) but not only that, I don't want to bring the whole company down with the lurgy! AND it sounds extreme but my colleague's husband has just finished his 4th round of chemo and I'd hate it if he caught this too.

So no, YANBU and thank you for making me feel a bit better about staying at home with my germs

You could gently point out to your ILs that DS can easily pick up bugs at the moment as he is poorly - they probably think that they are being troopers by still turning up even when being ill IYKWIM?

Hope DS gets well soon

YANBU - about your il's, particularly with regards to the tummy bug. I'd be fuming too!

Work is a different matter! I phoned in sick on Tues, and you would have thought the world had ended . I don't work Wednesday's but am today at my desk and feeling rubbish from a stupid, stupid tickley cough that just won't stop!! Someone made a comment earlier, but if was her that came in with all the germs before Christmas when she was really ill, because her pil's were visiting...... I don't get sick pay either, so have already cut into my holiday allowance.

I HATE people who do this. I was on the bus last night and a girl plonked herslef down onto the seat next to me. She was on the phone and was telling the person on the other end how she felt dreadful because she'd been being sick all day and was going to go home and collapse because work had been so tiring.

If the bus hadn't have been so packed I would have got up and moved. Instead I had to put my scarf over my face.

I wish sick people would just keep their bloody germs to themselves.

YANBU and for confirmation of MN's views on this, have a look here.

Bollocks - wrong thread brb.

Can't find thread (weeps). I was a fairly recent one about ILs who descended for a visit to a house with newborn in. FIL had D&V and they refused to leave, so OP went to her Mum's with baby.

Someone help me here....

YANBU and the ILs would have been turned away at the door/told to leave immediately it transpired that they were ill if I were in your shoes.

YANBU, your IL's were very selfish.

I know the thread you're on about LilRedWG, it was horrendous. Can't help though, I can never find threads!

YANBU my friends turned up on the doorstep yesterday and he had a raging cold and temperature. I was quite blunt about saying come in but don't expect a hug and please stay away from the kids+6

LilRedWG I remember that thread but thought it was a few months ago, was it in chat and therefore gone?

try this for the other thread

Ooooh, it works. OP, YANBU, see my link above for confirmation!

YANBU. When I had a newborn, close friends (the guy of the couple is a godfather; DH was best man at their wedding) cancelled their first visit because one had a cold. That's simply considerate, and you've every right to hope people think a bit. Babies that old have under-developed immune systems, D&V can mean hospital, and who wants a tiny baby to cope with a cold?

I hope you sent them home again, OP.

Definatly YANBU I won't go around babies or old people when i am ill.I think people should be a little more careful and that aplies to you in laws!

Work is a hard one,as i no what you are saying and in a fair world we would stay off work when we are ill but there are so many pressures these days.

But hope your little one gets better soon :)

Yanbu. It's selfish. Colds I can handle as my dcs are 3and 5. But I recently posted about a friend who turned up at a party with flu. 7 days later my ds cane down with flu over Xmas. Thanks! She gas also don't it with d&c. So selfish just cos she is bored she comes ova then annouces she is I'll or kids are I'll

Yr pil are being very selfish!

Riven nailed it in the first reply.

Please excuse spelling! Bloody phone.