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To think my moher in law does not know how to do the washing up...

169 replies

sea74 · 05/01/2011 21:09

Ok, i dont know if it's only her or not. A friend of mine told me that this is quite common in uk but, to me, it makes me sick. (i am not British)

My MIL does not rinse the plates, glasses or saucepans under running water but she puts them to drain covered in foam. Very often these are still greasy (also because she tends to wash the glasses as last thing when the water is already dirty) and then she dries them with a cloth instead of letting them dry in the air.

I repeat a friend of mine told me this is the british way (i am not british) but i dont believe her because i have seen other friends that instead rinse and dont dry with cloth.
I dont want to offend anyone, but could u tell me if this is very common? Thanks

OP posts:
tebbles · 05/01/2011 21:43

I rinse/wipe off off grease/dirt. Then I wash in hot soapy wash. Then I rinse under cold running water.

When I use dishwaher I rinse/wipe off grease/dirt. Then I run dishwaher. I always do an additional rinse cycle after it finishes. I dont like eating soap.

TattyDevine · 05/01/2011 21:45

Oh I love Mumsnet. Not only are you only allowed to use a bath towel once now, and not ever have a toilet brush, but now teatowels are fucking redundant? Hmm

Honestly. If it was that unhygeinic then restaurants would not be allowed to use them, yet they are. Food hygeine laws err on the side of paranoia and surprise surprise teatowels are still allowed.

I have a dishwasher, by the way, so I dont really have an axe to grind but seriously, please!

I would rinse if I were to hand wash, but only because I like to wash the soap off. I dont know why I like to wash the soap off, it just feels right! I can't see there is a massive hygeine issue, its more of a soap residue issue, though I also feel there shouldn't be too much soap residue or you are using too much.

Dear me.

PaisleyLeaf · 05/01/2011 21:45

I like the water as hot as possible so that the dishes dry on the rack quickly.

Milngavie · 05/01/2011 21:46

I honestly don't know but Miss Fleck was adamant cutlery must go first!!

I think it was something about cutlery being the cleanest items even before glasses.

I've tried doing glasses first but it felt wrong.

MilliONaire · 05/01/2011 21:54

Oh god my mother does this too! Drove me MAD over christmas when I was very ill and tired and had to keep re-washing dishes & cutlery she had supposedly 'washed'. Her method is to pile everything into the sink, squirt in a LOAD of washing up liquid, swirl the dish cloth about a few times whilst RATTLING the life out of everything in the ceramic sink (we have a lot of breakages with her!) then pluck them out and pile them all precariously on the ceramic draning board. 9 times out of 10 there is food still encrusted on the cutlery, she swills the glasses in the slimey water and they are not clean. Nothing gets an individual wash so all the tea cups are stained from the tea, pots still have food stuck to the bottom.

I find it way less stressful to just wash them myself really. I have my failproof method -

oragnise the dishes to be washed on the counter roughly in order of how they will be washed - glasses & cups nearest me, pots furthest away.

Make sure the sink and draning board are clean

Start running water into the sink with the washing up liquid, have tap at a slow flow, start washing the glasses, washing them thoroughly in the soapy water, then rinse under the still running hot water,

Continue with cups, plates, bowls, cutlery washing each one individually

Finish with the dirtiest pots and pans. Using fresh soapy water if necessary.

Use a clean teatowel (only use them for one drying up session) and dry everything except glasses & put away. I only dab the rim of the glass on the towel - they're usually air dried by the time the rest is done - that way they are smear free.

It's not exactly rocket science & you get lovely CLEAN dishes every time Grin

Jux · 05/01/2011 21:54

I don't rinse and my MIL was always on at me about it.

I do the glasses first though. Cutlery sits at the bottom of the sink and gets done after the cups, plates and bowls but before the pans. My MIL disagrees with me about this too.

AMumInScotland · 05/01/2011 22:07

I use bathtowels loads of times, have a loo brush (well 2 actually) and use teatowels. It's amazing I'm not dead yet really....

Jux · 05/01/2011 22:12

A butler of the Queen's apparently said you should never use washing up liquid on glasses - hot water only.

notapizzaeater · 05/01/2011 22:14

My MIL and FIL drive me mad, they wash in hot water, rinse then under the tap then pop them in the dishwasher - they will not believe the dishwasher will clean the plates properly !!!

stleger · 05/01/2011 22:21

I wash my teatowels in a special bowl, using some detergent and a kettle of boiling water. I do this because my mother did! We reuse bathtowels (except ds who thinks this place is a hotel), but we don't have toilet brushes.

aPixieInMyCaramelLatte · 05/01/2011 22:37

Can someone answer me a question which I should really know the answer too Blush

I was once told that you should rinse the dishes in cold water because it is cleaner than Hot? How did they work that out?

Anyway....

Fill washing up bowl (Yes bowl, otherwise no room to rinse) with Hot water and soap wash

Glasses
cutlery
cups
plates
pots

Rinse under hot tap and leave to air dry.

I don't actually know anyone in RL who does this differently unless they have a dishwasher.

I also have a toilet brush which is replaced every week or 2 as I buy the cheapy bog (Scuse the pun) standard one's from whatever supermarket we're in. I will not under any circumstances stick my hand down a toilet, gloves and bleach or not.

Lindax · 05/01/2011 22:38

Remember Home Ec classes (28 years ago!) - we were taught cutlery first - since it goes in the mouth, it needs the cleanest, hottest water possible.

FabbyChic · 05/01/2011 22:42

If I was to rinse it would be cold water, as cold water is used to rinse clothes.

dolphindolphin1 · 05/01/2011 23:01

Rinser here too. Although in a minority as dh and in laws all don't rinse. I also leave to air dry but that probably more lazyiness than hygiene!

TattyDevine · 05/01/2011 23:02

Its true that water from the hot tap is less desirable for cooking with or drinking because hot water disloves impurities more than cold and many houses, particularly older ones have lead pipes, and the concentration of lead can be reasonably high from the hot tap.

I really dont think this extends to washing dishes though, in fact you need it to be hot for hygeine purposes.

I have a food safety certificate and dont know of any reason why the hot tap rinse would be less hygeinic than a cold tap rinse - unless perhaps the dishes stay warm longer and hover around in the "danger zone" (anything between 8 and 75 degrees) where bacteria multiplies faster, however if the dishes are basically clean I dont see how this could be an issue.

I really think its starting to split hairs though when you start worrying about hot/cold for rinsing, to teatowel or not to teatowel, etc...if you have washed your dishes in hot soapy water, swilled them off if necessary and they have become dry one way or other before being put away, nothing bad will happen. I promise!!!

Strawbezza · 05/01/2011 23:06

At school I was taught that if you used a teatowel to wipe up, you didn't need to rinse because you would wipe away the soap residue. But if you left the stuff to air-dry, you should rinse away the soap residue.

PerArduaAdNauseum · 05/01/2011 23:06

Our dishwasher's been broken for months, and I'm thinking about replacing it with a cupboard as everything's so much shinier when you handwash.

And I sometimes rinse
And I often use a teatowel - especially to polish glasses and cutlery - but fgs if you change it every day (and we have plenty - they breed in cupboards you know) how many germs can there be?

charliesmommy · 05/01/2011 23:08

"cutlery first - since it goes in the mouth"

would be fine if you were to use it immediately afterwards to eat with, but as most cutlery then goes back into the drawer, which is no doubt opened and closed and hands groping around it before it is reused.. then a bit pointless to worry too much...

Strawbezza · 05/01/2011 23:12

Well glasses go in the mouth too, don't they? Or are you just supposed to pour the liquid into your mouth from a distance?

TattyDevine · 05/01/2011 23:14

Um, re cutlery goes in the mouth, so does the FOOD that is resting on the plate and god forbid, it even gets swallowed and digested.

Good lord.

SkyBluePearl · 06/01/2011 00:36

I rinse and wash glasses first. My brother is quite a domestic numpty though and doesn't understand the logic behind doing this. He also puts a completely full tray of washing powder into the washing machine and so even his clothes are still soapy after cleaning.

PadmeHum · 06/01/2011 00:46

Rinse. Rinse. Rinse.

You rinse your hands after washing them, you rinse after soaping up in the shower - on the basis that leaving detergent on your skins is not healthy.

Why on earth would you leave eat off and prepare food on dishes that are covered in dried detergent.

bronze · 06/01/2011 00:48

Noooooo you must use disposble stuff as anything else may carry germs

PadmeHum · 06/01/2011 00:51

Germs aren't the issue Bronze. Ingesting dried detergent with all of the chemicals in them is.

At least for me, anyway.

bronze · 06/01/2011 00:58

I was joking but if you're really that bothered, hot water, some sand and a damp cloth combined with a bit of elbow grease would do the job no problem