to fall out with my friend of 24 years?

[Doigthebountyeater]

She lives in New Zealand but we meet up once every two years or so and are always in touch via email etc

I recently joined facebook which I swore I'd never do and tried to befriend her. her message was very shocked and shifty but she allowed me access to her page. it turns out she is 'friends' with 2 girls who were my friends but who were very bad to me at a very bad time in my life (no family, ExP walked out and I tried to kill myself - these 'friends' of 16 years totally dropped me and rejected me, I think because I was depressing to be around. I had absolutely no one else in my life and could not think of a single reason to keep living) My friend knows they let me down (She was in NZ at the time) and knows I still have nightmares about what happened at that time in my life.

I was devastated when I saw she was friends with them. her attitude was basically 'don't tell me whom I can be friends with.' true - but do I want a friend who is so shallow and disloyal? Am considering just dropping her.

Sorry for punctuation, I'm typing fast before the baby wakes.

it's not worth discussing - just continue with your friend as b4.

I also was friends with two people who later fell out. I decided I was happy and grown up enough to remain friends with both and decided not to pass over any information. While one friend was mature about it the other friend tried to force me to decide between them. In the end the forceful friend lost me too because i wasn't going to be told who i couldn't be friends with. She wouldn't accept that i was prepared to be friends with both.

I have someone on facebook that has hurt a friend of mine on the past. Kind of a keep your enemies close thing.

But I also have people on facebook that i don't think a huge amount of, but that I wouldn't want to offend by rejecting. I think you may be reading too much into it, and if it came to it, I'm sure your freind would stick up for you.