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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To be annoyed with DH for being ill?

18 replies

Memoo · 05/01/2011 11:38

I know I am but grrr.

We've all been ill. I dosed myself up and got on with it. The kids got dosed up on Calpol and still managed to find the energy to tear around the house and drive me mad.

DH gets ill and he is lying on the bathroom floor half dead!

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thumbwitch · 05/01/2011 11:39

- YABU, yes.
But do tell him to get on with it instead of playing the drama queen (or dying duck, as my Dad would say) :)

borderslass · 05/01/2011 11:40

That's like DH I told him that its like the new boots ad here.

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Memoo · 05/01/2011 11:42

I might go and throw water over him, just to make sure he hasn't actually died

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Memoo · 05/01/2011 11:58

I have just put DD down for a nap and I can actually hear DH groaning through the baby monitor

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LadyOfTheFlowers · 05/01/2011 12:00

LOL - Give him a kick. :o

Bathroom floor indeed!!

Tell him to 'Man the fuck up' - usually works with my DH because he is, after all, a big strong man!!

Poogles · 05/01/2011 12:01

YABU if you are annoyed at him for being ill. YADNBU if you are annoyed with the overly dramatic way he is being ill!

Like you, I had to get on with it however DH has been wallowing in self pity (until I lost my patience with him last night and set the world to rights - did feel a bit guilty afterwards but he has made a good recovery this morning)

manicbmc · 05/01/2011 12:03

Take him a lemsip. Then tell him that you've all been ill and managed to get on with life. Then start hoovering around him, singing loudly and occasionally hitting him with the vacuum.

laurely · 05/01/2011 12:10

My DH is like this when he is ill

Drives me demented.

tell him to get a grip, self medicate and carry on his day.

TheCrackFox · 05/01/2011 12:11

I had to tell DH to fucking cheer up yesterday - yes he was ill but the whole family was. I would have said we all had a bad cold but DH says he has the flu. Bollocks.

Strangely telling him to cheer up worked.

prettymuchapixiegirl · 05/01/2011 12:15

It depends on how sympathetic and helpful he was when you were ill; if he waited on you hand and foot and looked after you then YABU. If he didn't give a shit and just expected you to carry on then YANBU, and in which case I'd just ignore him.

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Memoo · 05/01/2011 12:21

Oh yes DH has "flu" that has apparently gone to his stomach and now he feels sick [didums emoticon]

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HappySeven · 05/01/2011 13:49

Are you sure you had the same thing? I'm on day 12 of swine flu and the first couple of days I "got on with it" and then on the 3rd my legs wouldn't take my weight. I'd love to just pull myself together but I really can't (although I am improving). Stomach symptoms are part of swine flu.

My ILs were all "oh we've already had it and just got on with it" when I suggested they stayed away. Turns out they hadn't and now they've caught it they've realised it's not funny.

Hopefully your DH is overplaying it but maybe he isn't.

theressomethingaboutmarie · 05/01/2011 13:57

I feel for you OP. My DH was ill over Christmas (bad cold at the worst). When he realised that I wasn't going to be his nursemaid, he actually told me "I'm at deaths door here". I laughed my arse off.

He was waffling on about his illness that night so I told him that I reckoned he had bubonic plague and should sod off to the spare room. He improved pretty damn quick....

janajos · 05/01/2011 14:55

I have to say, give him the benefit of the doubt; I had flu before Christmas and I was utterly pathetic; my DH had to take a day off work because I really couldn't cope . I did have swine flu and agree with Happy7. He complained of being ill too and managed to carry on in spite of it!! He definitely did not have flu of any description. Bathroom floor is a bit much though, even I managed to get into bed!!

TattyDevine · 05/01/2011 15:12

If its just a cold he's being a bit OTT but give him the benefit of the doubt if he has fever or chills, or if he has an infection, i.e if its become tonsilitis or bronchitis, etc because these complications of what may have started out as a common cold can really make you feel incredibly rank.

I've been suffering with bronchitis this Christmas - I was in bed on Christmas day and most of Christmas eve, I couldn't sit up or my head would go, I slept 24 hours straight, I missed Christmas. I was sweating and shivering. The cough has been something else. I'm now on my 2nd course of antibiotics, incredibly strong ones that leave a foul taste in my mouth and make me feel sick, but I'd do anything to be rid of the cough and lack of airflow.

But if that is not the case, YANBU!

My husband has been pretty sympathetic to me, he's been a star, if it were the other way round, much as I might have nursed him and fetched him what he needed I'd probably still have had a whinge about how Christmas was ruined and how I had no "break" but he has done no such thing - he's lovely

Sassybeast · 05/01/2011 15:31

Is he 'really' lying on the bathroom floor? Because if he is, he's either a pathetic drama aqueen or he is actually pretty sick. I can't stand the over dramatisaion of man flu and the exagerreated coughing and groaing BUT having just had a nasty flu, and still struggling to walk any distance without having to sit down, I'd be a little bit more sympathetic on this occasion. My kids have had an awful new year - I was crawling around on my hands and knees and on one memorable day (which i don't actually rememeber) they survived on selection boxes and dry bread. Check his temperature and make sure he isn't really ill ?

TattyDevine · 05/01/2011 15:58

Haha Sassybeast - not funny I know but it reminds me of how I was feeling a few days ago. I am starting to improve now due to mega strong antibiotics but I have been parenting at about 21% efficiacy. I only realised it was lunch time because i heard the Cbeebies lunchtime theme, and then my Skybox went into standby because it had been on continuously for 4 hours

I'm just not up for anything much. 3 year old is still in his PJ's. Would it be terribly wrong to not bath him and just send him back to bed in those PJ's? If I hadn't let him make himself chocolate spread sandwiches for his lunch, they'd still be clean

Yep, not exactly winning mum of the year this week. Ah well there's always next week.

Sassybeast · 05/01/2011 16:07

Tatty - pah - one day of same Pjs ? -I'll see your one day and raise you 2 And at the Sky box -I'm surprised mine didn't melt!

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