should i go round and apologise?

[rdmommy]

We live in a middle terrace, my dd2 was screaming from 11pm until 4am with an ear infection.
last time she was ill i went round with chocolates to the neighbours on the right to apologise but they said they didn't hear anything. the old guy on the left is stone deaf and doubt he would have heard anything anyway.

feel terrible as their dd is back to school today, feel like a crap mother that couldn't console her and also that they have probably grumbled about me over breakfast- what would you do??

I'd knock on the door to apologise, not really your fault but at least you've done what little you can do to make amends for the disruption. Those token gestures can go a long way towards preserving neighbourly good will.

If you've already apologised in the past then they know you're not a crap mum! I'd not bother but if you bump into them, just mention it and say you're sorry for the noise!

I'm sure if they did hear anything, they understand

I would nip round and explain, I'm sure if they have a dd they will understand. My DS had a bad ear infection a year or so ago and he was like that, I felt so bad for him, I hope your dd is better soon.

I think knockingon their door and apologising is a good idea, not that it was anyone's fault
it just shows that you care about them and would make them even more understanding in the future

I woul be surpised if a Mother came round to say sorry for a sick child screaming...esp with chocolates!

Wait till you see them and mention it

You could drop a note round if you were worried. Then you are not disturbing them or making too big a deal out of it, but it might give way to more sympathy than you otherwise would have got - explanation etc.

i think i'm just feeling a weepy mess from lack of sleep, can't face anyone let alone neighbours i have probably kept awake all night, thing is i lost my rag at about 3am with my dh as he started moaning about the noise! they probably thought we were having a domestic and then the picture that i put up yesterday fell down so they probably think i hurled her against the wall!!! gosh motherhood does have its stresses!!!!

Think the main thing is to take the screamer downstairs to the sofa in the night so she isn't screaming by a bedroom wall. If you did that, no need to go round. If you didn't, no point going round as they hate you!

In that case, mention it to the neighbours if you see them, and then tell your DH to do one! My ex used to do this and it really pee'd me off, I would be having words of the loud and angry kind with him!

i took her into the playroom which is the only part of the house which isn't adjoined as its an extension does that mean i don't have to go round, i might go round now in my stained dressing gown that will definitely win sympathy, poor me and poor dd2 sltho she seems right as rain from 7am!!!! - maybe she didn't like the new picture!

Apologise. If they were disturbed they will appreciate your acknowledging the disturbance. If they weren't disturbed then at least you are being neighbourly and friendly. Nothing lost.

When my dcs were younger I apologised whenever we had a screamer of a night. I apologised when I lost the plot and yelled like a banshee at their misbehaviour as young children. Now I apologise for teenage antics.

Neighbours don't have children and always say they've never heard a thing but I don't believe them. They are lovely people and I think they appreciate my being open with them about it. I

Yes! It means you don't have to - make yourself a nice coffee, you've done all you can.