what should I say to other parents?

[DietDiva]

most days when I pick up dd from school another girl in her class is always being rough with her. I tell DD to stay next to me rather than chatting to her friends while I wait a few minutes for DS to come out of class.

This happens quite a lot and her parents never tell her not to do it. She's always rough with other children too.

SO without BU whats the best way to approach this?

where is this other girls parent while this is going on?

Approach the teacher and find out what's happening?

Why can't your daughter chat to her friends while you're there waiting for your son? Sorry I don't get that bit?

When my daughter was in pre-school (at an excellent school, which succeeded in getting very good behaviour and above average results from an extremely disadvantaged cohort), the children were all taught to say assertively, "Stop it! I don't like that!" when other kids got physical with them. It's a bit of a social minefield telling off other parents/their kids (even when they really need a telling off!)- but it might help your daughter stop the other girl's behaviour.

If the parents aren't doing anything I'd say to the girl 'please stop being rough with dd'
might do the trick

Other girls parents are standing near but dont say anything even though they can see what she's doing.

My dd can chat to her friends but I have recently just told her to stay near me so this girl doesnt hurt her. However I want my dd to talk to her friends and I think this other girls should stop being rough.

Was thinking about saying something to teacher but not sure what they would say as its happening outside school hours rather than when school is looking after them.

Dont mind approaching other parents just thought I would think about what to say first rather than being over the top about it.

I would have a quick, discreet word with the teacher.

It would give the teacher a chance to teach the whole group on behaviour that isn't acceptable, and you may be doing that girl, and your own a favour, for life.

Are you sure it's not happening in school? It's a bit odd to only happen at home time?

How rough is rough? I know some children are very boisterous and some are very delicate...maybe the parents don't see it as rough?

I'd still have a word with the teacher first if your daughter is unhappy. And yes, if it's happening on the school premises they will be interested.

thanks everyone for the replies.

My DD is very gentle and the other girl is very boisterous. But she hits, kicks and pushes and dd is very upset about this.

My dd has other friends in class so doesnt play with this girl. Only really happens to dd because others are walking out of school whereas we both seem to wait a few minutes to collect more than one child.

Think I will have a word with the teacher.

I know kids can be rough but its not very nice when its happening to my child.

I can't say what the teacher would do but I'm guessing they'd make a point of standing outside for a few days, just to keep an eye on her and the situation.

Good luck