To someimes not do housework?

[WimpleOfTheBallet]

I work from home...2 DDs aged 6 and 2. WOrking from home and looking after little DD is hard at tims but I don't earn enoughto cover childcare atm.

I do most of my work in the evenings.

DH has just returned from a stint working abroad and is now looking for more work..were living on my earnings....which we can JUST do...by cutting back a lot.

He is looking hard and will get something soon...but in the meantime he is here in the house and is moaning at me to put my clothes away...they're folded up in the bedroom.

I can't BEAR being told what to do domestically...I HATE it. I know I should do it...we share the space....but I am knackered...was up working till 1.00am then up with DDs and making breakfast, washing up.

DH does his fair share of housework but is very anal picky about things...nothing I do is up to his standards.

Hs Mother incidentally just about wipes the arses of the men in her life and I feel like he wants me to run the house like her.

Last night he said "You're like a bloke! Messy and disorganised!"

I don't care...should I?

Oh well...I'd better go and bloody put it all away.

Um, no... you DON'T.

He's being childish and selfish and you're enabling him. The time for being soft with him is long over. And the time for making excuses about him to us is also done.

If he's strong enough to nag you about it, he's strong enough for a real life talk about how you need to come up with compromises and solutiosn so that both people in the relationship are feeling secure, positive and appreciated. And not resenting each other.

Different people do things different ways. And if he's that organised, how about you let him do all the laundry, fold, putting away while he's unemployed and you're the one being breadwinner? Why do you have to be the one to do it?

The suggestions above being made re. a timetable for job seeking and child care and housework, etc. are good. I hope you take them into mind and work something out with your DH. It's no use coming on here to complain but then turning back to your RL and letting things go on the same old way.