to feel strongly about Christmas dinner...

[AliGrylls]

The background is quite short. DS was in ICU over Christmas so basically we had a rubbish Christmas and only half heartedly celebrated for 2 hours on Christmas Day. Anyway, I vowed that I would have a Christmas dinner and now that DS is out of hospital I asked DH to make one for me so that we could celebrate properly, mainly because I love turkey with all the trimmings (even brussel sprouts).

The only problem is that he is only half bothered about it and I feel like I have bludgeoned him and his mother into making me one.

Was I being unreasonable to ask for it and to make an effort to celebrate Christmas properly? Am I the only person left in the world that loves Christmas dinners?

I think you've had a terrible time and you should be allowed to eat whatever you like.

you could always make it yourself

why don't you make it?

YANBU.

Sorry to hear about your DS.

You definitely deserve a decent xmas dinner.

YANBU.

DS was in HDU on my birthday last year and I celebrated a month later with a big family meal (which we normally do on my birthday). This year my family are taking me away for the weekend so I can try to avoid "this time last year.." thoughts.

YANBU, you just had a baby and went through a difficult time, they should make you whatever you want to eat, and should do it happily! congratulations and merry Christmas!

YABU to ask somebody else who wasn't bothered to make it. Why didn't you do it yourself.

Sorry you had a shit Christmas and I would have still wanted my dinner on another day but wouldn't have asked somebody else to cook it for me.

Your DHs mind could have been half on what had just happened, it does leave you shell shocked.

If he didn't feel like doing it, I'd take the fact that he did as a reflection of how much he loves you

It's also possible that you were focusing on the dinner to blot out what was going on?

Are you the one who's DH is on here? Larry?

Or am I imagining that?

Sorry about your son,But don't pressurise DH and MIL into putting on a meal(or face for that matter).Let things calm down and perhaps broach something you all want to do. Or, if you are set upon a Xmas meal you cook it.

Sorry to hear your son was ill over Christmas. You could of made it yourself though, Might of taken your mind of things.

If he didn't feel like doing it, I'd take the fact that he did as a reflection of how much he loves you

This. Definately the best way to think about it.

Yes, that is my DH. I would ignore most of what he says on here. He pretends to be one of those unreconstructed men but in reality he is very kind. He also does mpst of the cooking.

I didn't realise how unbothered he was about it until I asked him today. A turkey has been bought and I do feel a bit guilty. I have bought a present for MIL to compensate.

Agent - it is very sweet that you ascribe unselfish motives to me but I actually just think I am really greedy.

Thanks for all your support.