To think it not really on to gossip on FB about people who are NOT on it?

[Shimmerysilverglitterybaubles]

Yes I know it's FB, work of the devil and all that but I am on it.

Ex H is not on it and hates it with a passion. However for the past day or two whenever I log on there are breathless updates from a mutual acquaintance of ours on his doings while away for New Year along with a lot of gossipy comments from others and from these ex is not being represented greatly. Now he is up to nothing that I am not aware of and it would not be any of my business if he was. However I know he would be absolutely mortified if he knew he was being discussed like this, he has a pretty responsible job where his reputation is key.

Just don't think it is on really, can't even warn him as his phone is not on.

I would have a word with the mutual acquaintance first and tell her what you have said here. Then she can delete it, he is none the wiser, and you dont end up losing the mutual acquaintance as a friend also.

I don't think UABU. I don't think its on to talk "publicly" about someone when they can't defend themselves. Does it bother you enough to stick your neck out and tell them so? Comment doesn't have to be nasty but just to the point. I think that would do more good than letting him know as he would have to join to do anything about it.

Yes think I might send a private message to her thus cementing my reputation as his joyless, horrible ex wife .