Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. Only the apps you allow.

Meet the Other Phone.
Only the apps you allow.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

Original poster

To have a crush on my partners best mate?!

6 replies

CheekyChoppers · 30/12/2010 19:41

Am I out of order? I've got a massive (but totally innocent) crush on my boyfriends best friend.

I love my partner and would never cheat on him, but since we had our first baby three months ago he's gone cold on me :-( That, along with being off work and basically having too much time on my hands, I've developed a crush on his mate... I can't stop thinking about him :-(

Why don't relationships stay 'exciting' for ever?!

OP posts:
PeeringIntoAFestiveVoid · 30/12/2010 19:46

I have to say that, prior to my current DP, I always had a strange and inexplicable attraction to my partner's best mate. To the degree that I later married the best mate of my first serious boyfriend (ten years after the first relationship ended, I hasten to add). Grin I never did anything about it with any of the BFs at the time though, it was just a harmless (I think) attraction.

I'd like to think that the reason that hasn't happened with my current DP is because I'm so much more mature and committed. I think it's probably that neither of the two BFs are remotely attractive though... Grin

Don't give yourself a hard time, just enjoy a bit of a crush. But don't do anything about it either - that way lies heartache for everyone.

Saggyoldclothcatpuss · 30/12/2010 20:16

I have a crush on my best mates partner! She knows. I also have a crush on about 57 other people. I think it's something to do with my hormones! Grin

Mists · 30/12/2010 20:19

My mate once said of her BF's friend that she "definitely would" and ended up getting married to him.

The original BF still doesn't know. For years he was saying that, "P has met a cracking new bird and never comes out with the lads any more" Xmas Grin

Chil1234 · 30/12/2010 20:31

YANBU... use it to your advantage. Point out how gorgeous his mate is and maybe Chilly Willy will be spurred on to get his act together!?

MsKLo · 31/12/2010 08:42

Chil1234 I love the chillywilly description!

But seriously - OP, why has hubby gone cold on you? Maybe you need to have a chat?

Fancying his mate may be just a harmless crush but beware... Does he give you attention?

Talk to chilly willy - you need reassurance x

Bogeyface · 31/12/2010 08:45

YANBU to have the crush, it happens to us all! But I would be focussing more on chillywilly (hereafter known as CW!) and why he has gone so cold.

Hopefully if you can sort things out there then your crush will subside.

New posts on this thread. Refresh page