to not want DS 3 years old to play on Call of Duty

[debs227]

aagghhhh, sorry in advance but i am very annoyed!

I left my DS 3 yrs old with his grandparents whilst myself, DH and DD went to do the food shopping. We thought it would be a treat for him as he really doesn't like food shopping.

Anyway i pick him up and he is really eager to say "mummy........i didn't play on anything" to which his grandma then feels she needs to explain that his Aunty and cousin (11 yrs old) took him back to their house and his Uncle was playing on Call of Duty but they turned it off.

Anyway in the car DS carries on and explains that he was actually playing on the game and shooting people (on the TV) with a gun in his hand and his cousing was helping him.

I am fuming!!! There is so much wrong with this and i feel very upset that they have told DS to lie to me.

Please tell me i an being reasonable for being upset, DH has gone up the wall and i wish i hadn't told him now.

YANBU I'd be furious not just by the game which is just plain bad judgement but the lying how on earth can they justify telling a child to lie and keep secrets!
I would certainly never allow for them to care for my DC again, the trust would be gone.

I really can't agree undertheradar that such games have no impact on young minds

You are of course entitled to do as you wish but there is no way my three year old is playing any games on the computer let alone violent ones

YANBU - had similar situation with my DH nephew who is also 11yrs and allowed to play on Call of Duty/Assassins Creed etc, etc. I explicitly told SIL that my DC were not to be allowed to see it when they are at her house. She agreed with this but on one occasion I left DC with MIL at her house whilst I went to court with her regarding her divorce. DS (4) told me how nephew had allowed him to watch him playing Call of Duty but told him not to tell me. Obviously as this is a child doing this it is different. I have my rules about my children and if other people can't stick to them then I have to find other care arrangements for the children to ensure this doesn't happen again

Oh come on they let him have a little go whilst he was visiting.

Its a shootem up, there is no blood and guts in it.

Call of Duty isnt that bad, I play it occassionally with DH as it's not very violent (no blood/guts/gore and no replays of killings in slowmo like others I have seen)

Certainly not designed for a 3 yr old but then he prob had no idea what was happening anyway.

What I would be FURIOUS with is the fact they told him to lie to you. That I would bringing up, not the game per se

MsKLO - well, that's your opinion.

If they're taught it's pretend and not RL (which it is) there will be no problem.

It's young kids left unsupervised with adult games/dvd's who come to believe reality is the same as fantasy...........

Chucky/Jamie Bulger........

The other issue with some of the games, comes when playing strangers using the X-box etc. On a few occasions my DH and his mates have had people say things which they've reported to the moderators (use of racial slurs, use of rape analogies etc.). There options for the players to opt for 'family' players (or of course not tune into the other conversations) but as this is all live it can't be stringently monitored. Worryingly DH tells me it is often people who sound very young who come up with the most offensive things.

Then there's issues with games like Grand Theft Auto which depict prostitution, pimping etc. So it's not just the violence that raises Qs about what is appropriate for kids to see.

I wonder how many people really know about what is shown in some of these games? I had no clear idea until tonight!! My DH has his mates over for games nights every so often but until recent weeks I normally go out (now too tired due to late preganancy) and had NO idea! I just told them about this thread and they were amazed that anyone would knowingly let children play. (I haven't bothered with asking what the appeal to them is...yet).

Incidentally, Undertheradar they reckon these games are a hell of a lot more explicit in terms of both sex and violence than they were 15 or so years ago...

Well done Under the Radar on having had the luck to have a child that has turned out to be the exception to the rule. This topic has been done to death elsewhere.....
OP you are def NBU and need to bring this up to prevent it happening again.

well it's got a high age certificate for a good reason. best put your foot down.