To not take our DC to swimming lessons or am i just being lame?

[RememberToPlaywiththeKids]

I am 8 months pregnant and have 2 DC age 4 and 2. A swimming teacher was recommended ages ago but only had a space on monday lunch times. I loathe the whole swmming pool business but I do appreciate that it's important that we can all swim! I THOUGHT that DH said that he wouldn't mind taking them if it was at the weekend.

Anyway - the swmming guy has said that he has a space on sunday lunchtimes and as I say, I'm now 8 months pregnant. The 2 year old would certainly need DH or I in the pool with him but he would teach them both together in a double session.

I told DH he had a space and he said that he wasn't sure he wanted to commit to lessons every sunday so i said I understand and that it would be him that took them so it's up to him. He said he would assume that we would do alternate weeks but he's still not happy to commit.

In my current state and breast feeding a baby (which we know has cardiac issues already), it hadn't occurred to me that I should participate BUT that could be because I loathe swimming pools .

The end result is that the kids are not going to have lessons - I can't possibly do it without at least some of DHs help bearing in mind the ages of our DC plus new baby on the way so I can't set something up in the week for them.

Now am I just being crap by not wanting to take them swimming or should i pursue it? What's the minimum age we should be getting the older one going properly? We do go to the pool occasionally as a family but not very often at all.

I'd shop around and see if you can't find a lesson for the 4 yo on a Saturday am. I expect it might be a bit of a break for you to have an hour or so off the 2 yo! Certainly within a 5-10 mile radius of us, there are at least 8 swim schools. Some use the same venues, so don't just assume there is one swim school per venue.

But don't sweat it. They don't really learn that much til 5 yo, IME.

Don't beat yourself up about it. My two had lessons relatively late (about 7 and 5) and they soon caught up with their peers.
Bear in mind that you don't just have the swimming lessons to deal with but all of that showering/changing rooms business afterwards - not easy to get 2 young DC's changed with a baby in tow.
Give yourself a bit more time to see how you feel once the baby has come along and see if your DH can be coerced persuaded to help out more.

my son started just before his 5th birthday and now 3 years later he does lane swimming with the older kids. Could you let your eldest swim post birth - and not your youngest?