To be hugely annoyed with my neighbour's party...

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...which has just woke me up again with banging house music?

Neighbour, single mum, has two moody teens who look around 17-19 or so. I have issues with them sometimes because they love to play really loud music with the windows wide open when their mum isn't home, so I can't sit out unless I put up with the music. And they often sit outside in summer til late with their friends, drinking & being loud. Not being bad - just being loud. My bedroom backs onto their yard.

But tonight is the worst. I noticed them having a party - fine. It was pretty noisy & lots of bass so I had to try & sleep somewhere else for a while. (I'm 17 weeks P too, & really need quiet to sleep.)

At 3:30 am I woke up & DP thought the party had stopped (although they had kept him up for quite a while) so I went back to my normal bed.

3:45 am - banging dance music starts again!!! I look out the window & see the mum swanning around the kitchen, looking like she's just had a shower (her hair was in a towel) while the party continues around her. ???

I am really annoyed. A, it may be Christmas week but it's a Tuesday & most people will be back to work tomorrow. B, it feels like yet again they are forgetting they live in a little city terrace with lots of neighbours around them. C, if they do want to carry on late, I think you should keep the music down. D, it's not fair that I feel I can't sleep in my own bed & I have to wear earplugs.

I am seriously thinking we have to have a word tomorrow to let her know how much it disturbed us. AIBU to expect them to be more thoughtful?

Getting her number is a good idea - I'll try for that.

Oh, forgot to answer re: neighbours - bit of a funny one. Next door to me are two lodgers who aren't there that often, and then next to them an elderly lady who is a bit deaf - that's it for our road. But the houses directly next to them and across - not sure who's in those. I do feel very sorry for the terrace right next to them.

I definitely think taintedsnow and tanso have the right idea,if things have always been fairly friendly then it's much better to keep it that way as much as possible. A quiet word and, if possible, a number swap is a really good start and then you can always move on to environmental health if it doesn't do any good.

Poor you. When your baby is born and he or she is trying to sleep then this may become even more of an issue. Hope you can tackle it soon.