to be pissed off with some of my parents

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Have parents and step parents and have done for 25+ years.
No love lost between SM and myself and to be fair I mostly just tolerate but love my dad to bits.
Have 1 SS and 1 SB to this woman.

Despite me asking year after year after year for them to come to us for 'the big day' they always say they arent sure what they are doing or that they are staying home - just the 2 of them. and then come the day bugger me they are always with my SS who I dont see much of but do love.

And then - they have 4 gd's in total, 3 mine and 1 to my SB. I know that the only child is treated very differently to my girls for a variety of invented reasons by the SM. We have had years where none of us had had a gift, years when only adults have??????? and then this year they asked what we wanted. We wanted vouchers for something very specific or cash if it was easier and I gave them ideas for the grown daughters - littly happy with anything. We got - a household item bearing no relation to anything, the grown girls got a tiny bit of money and the little got a gift.
Is it me?

It's not you but as there's 'no love lost between you', I'd say let it go. YANBU to find it frustrating or apthetic though.

I think your dad should make sure that all his DGC are treated the same. Your SM married someone who had a child and she too should make every effort to treat you and your DC fairly and certainly not show favouritism to her biological GC over her step GC. To treat all the children fairly is the agreement a step parent makes when they marry someone with a child.

I would stop asking tbh and I would let my dad know that I was hurt by their behaviour. He sounds weak to me, as if he takes the path of least resistance. I think he should be told how his behaviour makes you feel, because he has a duty to you as your parent and he has not honoured it.

Oh he is definately weak and I wish it didnt hurt but it does - every year.

Anything for a quiet life my dad :(