Women who treat men like children

[singingcat]

Now I know that men sometimes do this to women, and much worse things besides, but I have really noticed it this Christmas.

Why do some women micromanage everything their OH does as though he is completely incompetent/a child? Includes constantly commenting on driving, the way they open a bottle of wine, put a toy together, etc. etc. These are grown men who have jobs and manage to get through their working day without killing themselves. Why do their partners have no confidence in their skills to do anything? I would say 'watch out!' to DH if he was about to step backwards onto the cat/child but really try not to criticise for no reason.

Over the past week I have seen my mother doing this to my father, MIL to FIL, SIL to BIL etc. And the upshot is that often the man stops trying, because everything he does gets criticised, or comes to rely on the micromanaging, at which point he gets accused of being a lazy arse. It's such a love killer, I think.

Has anyone else noticed this?

My mother firmly believes that all men act like children and need to be treated accordingly. And my father lets her and in due course will act like a child.

So I blame them both, takes two to tango.

I can't stand it, men are grown adults and need to act as such, and women need to accept men are grown adults and expect them to act as such.

Not read whole thread, but my MIL called me today to remind me to get a form for dp's new passport.
I smiled sweetly and then told Dp I would be happy as his partner (who has more free time) to get him a form if he asked me (i.e. needed my help) but know way was I getting into some weired thing where I treat him as incapable.