to not agree that a baby can have you wrapped around their finger

[Lynzjam]

I have a 3.5 month old DD. We have been spending also of time with friends and family over Christmas and we have had a couple of comments about the baby having us wrapped around her little finger.

This comment bugs me! Why do people say this?

fireblademum ooh, I want one of those t shirts!!

please don't doubt yourself.

You are responsive to your baby's needs. What could be better parenting than that?

loved the link sayjay! all very true

and i read of the t shirt in a post a few months ago. sure someone will be along who can remember what it was about.
thinking of it and smiling to myself really helped me weather the inevitable storm of well intended advice!

had cause to use it again today!

I have/had a friend who used to go on and on about how important it was for DS to be able to sit in the bouncy chair or on his own for 10 minute chunks of time or more and how hers were always happy to... Blah blah blah. DS was similar age to your dd and I just had to Learn to smile, nod and then ignore. Keep picking her up and doing as you are. She's a baby. She depends on you.

Yes - added to list of mantras:

this too shall pass

it's all a phase (the good and the bad)

he doesn't know he wasn't born in a cave in the 2nd century - it's so the tigers don't get him

and - so what, I'm enjoying doing it all wrong!

I can't stand the questions along of the lines of: has she been good. Makes cringe and :(

I have learnt that peer pressure isn't an active thing at times though. Just because everyone else seems to be doing something different doesn't mean your wrong.

I dunno, DD1 definitely had me and her Dad wrapped around her finger. If someone had said that I would have taken it as a compliment.

DD2 has everyone wrapped around her finger, she's so cute at the moment (11 months).

LOL at Morloth

Do people really think you should just leave a bored baby lying under a play gym complaining? That is deeply weird.

"If you keep this up your baby is going to think that you love him!"

Is it like The Rules for babies?

After a breastfeed wait at least 3 hours before feeding again. Also make her work for it, babies are more enthusiastic about boobs that play hard to get. The "chase" is part of the enjoyment.

Make sure in the early stages that you are seeing other babies, don't commit too early to the one you gave birth to.

Babies get complacent if nappy changing is a one way thing. Insist that they also change your nappy. It's only fair.