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Tell me how to get rid of these guests

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fruitstick · 25/12/2010 21:54

All mine and DHs family are here fir Christmas tea. At 8pm my uncle and wife turn up. They always used to come to my mum's house on Christmas day but she's been dead for years.

They went to my sisters house but noone was there. They then went to our old house and realised we'd moved. They saw the sold sign on our new house and knocked on the door.

They won't leave!

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IlsaLund · 25/12/2010 21:58

I'll send DH round - the after effects of Christmas dinner have given him the ability to empty a room in seconds ... Xmas Grin

jalopy · 25/12/2010 21:58

Perhaps they're lonely.

LittleMissHoHoHoFit · 25/12/2010 21:59

If everyone else is still there, tbh it'll be hard to get rid.

they sound determined! Xmas Shock

lisad123isasnuttyasaboxoffrogs · 25/12/2010 22:00

start tidying around them and if the kids are still up put them to bed. If all else fails put your PJs on and say to DH, we better get to bed shortly, want me to make a drink before we go up? {Grin

PrettyCandlesAndTinselToo · 25/12/2010 22:01

Is there some history to account for you not wanting them around (after all, why would you not let your uncle know you'd moved?) or do you just want them out because it's late?

festivefriedawhingesagain · 25/12/2010 22:10

I would offer to de-ice the car before they go. Or ask if they want a last quick cup of tea before they go home Xmas Smile

rupert1 · 25/12/2010 22:13

Best way i can think of to get rid of these people is start yawning a lot in the right direction,they might get the message or if you have a recording of Waybuloos a childrens programe try putting that on hope this helps

Valpollicella · 25/12/2010 22:17

You have mice. Or rats.

Go to the bathroom and start screaming... You saw a big fucker. And then when they've calmed you down, and you go back to the kitchen...can you surreptitiously get some tres burnt toast crumbs and pass them off as mouse droppings?

Add into conversation that 'OMAGOD mice are incontinent and pee everywhere'

That should shift them

KatieMiddleton · 25/12/2010 22:27

How did they find your new house?

Any way, tonight I went to bed with DS and called down for DH leaving guests, who'd out stayed their welcome, sitting in living room watching telly. The went after about 25 mins.

MadamDeathstare · 25/12/2010 22:35

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rupert1 · 25/12/2010 22:39

second thoughts i think this has been well planned and they are out to ruin your christmas

BetsyBoop · 25/12/2010 22:42

With your best smile say

"I'm just about to make DH & myself a nice mug of cocoa before we head for bed, would you like one last drink before you go, or are you okay?"

who could possibly not get the hint that they'd outstayed their welcome? Grin

alexqueue · 25/12/2010 22:44

I'll second jalopy's: perhaps they're lonely? Are the other guests still there or not? If it's just you and them, time to go. But otherwise, I'd try to be charitable.

AppleHEAD · 25/12/2010 23:10

Turn the heating off

MrsRhettButler · 25/12/2010 23:18

they can't be lonely! there's two of them! Grin

cumfy · 25/12/2010 23:26

Why did you let them in ? :o

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fruitstick · 25/12/2010 23:33

We were charitable. Some of our guests left because of them but then we carried on regardless. Played games which they joined in on.

But next year we're not opening the door! Grin

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fruitstick · 25/12/2010 23:36

The problem was all our other guests were still here who we wanted to stay so we couldn't chuck them out.

It was fine though - Christmas afterall.

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expatinscotland · 25/12/2010 23:39

are they still there?

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fruitstick · 25/12/2010 23:44

No they went along with our other guests.

It was fine, but would rather have spent Christmas without them. And given I haven't seen them for over 18 months I'm not sure why they thought calling in unannounced would be ok on Christmas day Hmm

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fruitstick · 26/12/2010 08:56

I've woken up and am now really cross about it. Nothing to do with the bottle of Baileys I drank.

They didn't come to see me at all, came to see my sister who they do see more often. However I havent seen them for 18 months, and that was at my sisters. they didn't even send me a Christmas card. Or bring so much as a bottle of wine.

But instead i webt to lots of trouble only for the guests I actually wanted to spend Christmas with left and I got stuck with them.

Angry

And what's worse is that they'll think it's ok to do it next year now too Angry

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fruitstick · 26/12/2010 08:59

My Christmas spirit really has left the building!

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HecTheHallsWithBoughsOfHolly · 26/12/2010 09:28

well, sorry for the silly / obvious question, but why didn't you tell them to go/not let them in because it wasn't convenient? And if you resent them and aren't that bothered about having them in your life, why don't you phone them up and say that you feel like they took the piss and they are not to do it again?

I don't understand why you allowed something to happen that you resent and are now cross about and that you are just accepting will happen again next year and you're cross about - instead of telling them to not do it and sorting it out right away.

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fruitstick · 26/12/2010 09:44

Hec, I think that's why I'm so angry about it. Of course that's what I should have done. But I didn't know it was them when I opened the door. We were in the middle of putting kids to bed and when I came down they'd settled in.

And I've realised this is what happens in my family. Wevare trained to go along with things and then mutter resentfully. It is something I need to work on. Assertiveness in my own home!

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HecTheHallsWithBoughsOfHolly · 26/12/2010 09:46

Well then, change that. Tell them straight.

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