background -
i am 44, my mother and i have had a stormy rlationship since i was a late teenager - she has been pretty controlling. when i had my own kids she tried too - although we live quite far away and she didnt have that much input.
scroll forward to now - we see each other infrequently, but reasonably civilly.
She lives alone, about 10 days ago i found ourt from her neighbours she had a fall and was in hospital - she had given them as next of kin, not me - she said to them she didnt want to spoil my christmas (me, hubby, 4 teenagers) when i have called ward every day, she has a mobile which i dont have number of because she never uses it normally - for emergencies one - and she said to the nurses, she didnt know the number. She knows my number but hasnt called me, and i havent been able to speak to her. I feel peed off that she wont contact me on the ward, although i know when she is out i will be the worlds worst. I cant see her because she lives 4 plus hours away and the weather wont permit because of the roads etc.
Am i being unreasonable to feel annoyed that i am going to be put as the bad guy (as usual) to everyone?
I cant even get in contact!! She dislocated her shoulder and has yesterday gone to a rehab ward - i have tried a few times today to get in touch to say merry xmas and speak to her, but they are not answering on the ward.