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Why7 would someone post this on their facebook status

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nikos · 25/12/2010 18:28

Thanks to wife for Christmas dinner when he is sat at home with wife and kids and no one else. Why not just thank her when she is sat beside him. This is what I find odd about facebook, That people become incapable of living their life without an audience, Anyone else find this strange?

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oneortwo · 25/12/2010 20:31

and that's the beauty of email / text / private message right? works for me when I keep in touch with loved ones on the other side of the world.

nzshar · 25/12/2010 20:32

like I said each to their own. :)

ZacknJakesMuma · 25/12/2010 20:41

LOL @ Niceguy2

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nikos · 25/12/2010 21:21

But look this is two people sitting opposite each other and one posting to thank his wife for christmas dinner and then the wife coming on to say she likes his comment, Wierd. What they want is for everyone to think shes a wonderful wife for cooking and him for appreciating her.

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BertieBottlesOfMulledWine · 25/12/2010 21:35

Yes I agree nikos - it's a show off thing "Ooh look I have a wonderful relationship"

Admittedly I did just update my FB with "..had a wonderful day, thank you to and everyone else I don't have on facebook for making it great!"

Which is stupid because the people I don't have on facebook, um, won't read it. So I guess in a way I am showing off a bit. But I don't do this normally - am just in a slightly gushy mood and want to shout it from the rooftops. I don't subject my friends to constant "I love soooooooo much!!" statuses. They make my teeth itch.

cupcakebakerer · 25/12/2010 21:37

Facebook brags are the worst - one of my 'friends' today posted: "thank you darling for my beautiful sparkling diamond ring." Yuk.

MollieO · 25/12/2010 21:57

I think couples who do this are trying to convince themselves and others that their relationship is simply so perfect. It also makes me laugh when people have hundreds of fb 'friends'. It seems to beca new collectors hobby. I have 26 and that is probably about 10 more than I would prefer. I also ensure that my privacy settings are such that only my friends can read any updates etc.

ladysybil · 25/12/2010 22:20

they are telling everyone else that their wife has cooked a lovelymal, and they are grateful for it. is exactly the same as telling your frineds in real life that your wife made a lovely meal

usualsuspect · 25/12/2010 22:24

seems fine to me ..if you don't like to read status updates ,don't have a fb or block them from your wall

Morloth · 25/12/2010 22:42

I think you are investing a lot of energy in caring about the harmless fluff that they are getting up to.

If you don't like it/them either defriend them or just skim over it.

ILoveItWhenYouCallMeBoo · 25/12/2010 22:48

i know loads of people that do this. i don't get it.

"oi, wash the dishes"

"I cooked"

"I'm tired, you do it, pleeeease!"

i mean WTF????

and also

"X has a lovely hubby, just made me a bacon buttie. thank you baby"

boak

Rindercella · 25/12/2010 22:49

I hate this. I just cannot get why 2 people in the same house/room need to have a public commentary on their lives.

Rindercella · 25/12/2010 22:50

Same as people taking personal vendettas out on FB. Pick up the phone and TALK!

Niceguy2 · 26/12/2010 09:47

I just saw an update from a FB friend. She's posted about how her ex (2.5 years ago) has just proposed to his new GF and how she never thought she can hurt so much, she'll never get over him and how she wants to die.

Seriously!?!? Get a chuffing grip!!!!

FunnyLittleFrog · 26/12/2010 09:53

Don't like FB at all. The OP is exactly right in saying it is odd that some people now seem incapable of living their life without an audience.

FunnyLittleFrog · 26/12/2010 09:56

Meant to add, the difference between MN and FB is that on MN nobody (in most cases) actually knows who you are and that the vast majority of posts are contributions to discussions / arguments and not bland comments about what so and so is doing today.

TheProvincialLady · 26/12/2010 10:14

How about the couple I know who plan their evening's entertainment on facebook. As in two days ago, it read something like "X is planning an evening in front of the fire on the rug with all the fun that entails" and then her DH joins in with "oh great, can't wait" and then 2 hours later "That was brilliant, thanks X"

VOM

aristomache · 26/12/2010 10:20

Yep it gets my goat too, not that I have FB but I did up until 5months ago.

My sister updates aty least 4 or 5 times a day, as well as taking photos to add to the commentary of her life (photos of the mess she has to clean up, photos of the cooking she's done, photos of every room she decorates)

She twisted one of her statuses ever so slightly last week, it was still true but certain aspects grossly over-exaggerated - this was for one reason only - attention seeking.
It isn't just her either,it's rife and I'm talking grown adults here!!

I'm afraid some people will never see it for what it is - seeking approval/ validation/ attention/ bragging, as they do it themselves - also thanks to FB it has sort of become socially acceptable anyway. Well it isn't, and wont ever be, to me!!

Comparing it to posting anonymously on a message board as part of a discussion is a bit silly really!

diddl · 26/12/2010 10:24

But just because they are posting statuses on FB for people to see, doesn´t mean that they aren´t also communicating, does it?

usualsuspect · 26/12/2010 10:27

If you don't like it don't use facebook its simple really

fairycake123 · 26/12/2010 12:07

People use technology in different ways.

Secretwishescometrue · 26/12/2010 15:05

I had to delete my brothers girlfriend for this kinda stuff, all the I love you, you the bestest boyfriend in the whole universe was vom worthy enough but when they would have a fight and break up every other week and she would publicize the details including how her heart feels like a thousand knives are being twisted in it and the world hurts too much to go on etc etc etc....... Well that is worse then thanking spouse for Xmas dinner but It just seems so wierd to me to publicize any conversation between you and your partner, just don't get it to me it is different then tellin your friends family your talkin to in person on the phone or emailing that OH made us a lovely meal etc but updating it on fb... Attention seeking/stupid/juvenile/or maybe just really insecure...

mippy · 26/12/2010 16:04

i see that with teenage relatives, but I would have thought adults would keep their arguments off Facebook.

5GoldenFimbos · 26/12/2010 16:25

My neighbour does this. Her bf asked her to marry him, spelt out in tealights in the garden, that was photographed and stuck on as her fb profile picture. She only got divorced about the week before and knew she was going to get remarried to the new man. Then she photographed the engagement ring and plastered that all round fb too.

Dh doesn't "get" fb at all and refuses to have an account.

aristomache · 26/12/2010 16:28

you're being a bit naive then mippy

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