Basically our LO is 3 weeks old today. He was low birth weight so Ive been BFing on demand. He has no routine yet and sometimes feeds for hours and with only an hour inbetween. Its only understandable, hes tiny and trying to beef up!
In laws were told when he was born that we didnt plan on going out xmas day, as feeding might be an issue - I cant take him round to see them only to end up sat with him feeding for hours in MILs bedroom. It wouldnt be fun for them, him or me and they'd still barely see him. He screams continuously and they usually just try and make him pose for photos...
They are more than welcome here, and we made that clear. I can feed in my own front room/bedroom then and baby might be more relaxed. SIL with 1 year old lives next door too, so its two birds, one stone for them.
Despite saying this over and over since he was born, today we've had tearful phonecalls, emotional blackmail and other tactics to try and make us go over there.
DPs younger sister and brother just came over to see us for a while which was totally fine. But if DPs mum is really so devastated not to see us on xmas day, why cant she come here? She could have come with SIL and BIL?
Aside from that, shes had 35 years of people going to her house, why cant she allow one year off because we have had a baby?
And to make such a fuss that she couldnt see us on the day after saying nothing for 3 weeks, and then to pass up a chance to see us, feels like its just a power play.
They are muslim btw, so xmas is not a major celebration for them.
AIBU to be totally totally annoyed and think that we'll have this for years to come. When my baby is 5 will they still expect us to tear him away from his presents just because they dont want to go out on xmas day?!