I am pregnant with first, due in June.
DP is from Essex - all his family still there, but we live where I am from in Yorkshire.
I like his family, but the past few times we have been there, his mum has ended up completely pissed at 3 in the morning, screaming and ranting, and tbh it's horrible.
This year DP is with me at my mum's and before I got pregnant, next Xmas was supposed to be at his mum's, in Essex.
When we found out we were having a baby I told him that I would like to spend Xmas day 2011 at home, just the 3 of us, as to avoid the whole which family to have babies first Xmas with, and just to avoid the stress on the day (lots of alcohol will be consumed, i really don't want memories of first Xmas to be like last time we visited). The plan was to go down for a few days and come back on Xmas eve, then spend the day at home and visit my family for a few hours on boxing day. The year after, when baby will be 18 months and aware of what is going on we will be at his mum's.
I even suggested we go to his mum's this year so he doesn't go two years without spending the day with his family, which he said no to.
This was all discussed and was fine, but now he has started saying 'oh next year when we're at my mums...' and he suddenly has a problem with it again. He is currently in a big mood about it 
after spending the whole night playing xbox what a lovely Xmas eve!
AIBU or is this really unfair on him?