to think FIL and SMIL are being bloody rude??

[HMTheQueen]

Ok, so last night I spent most of the evening sorting out the front/spare room and making the (quite expensive) sofa bed up so that Fil and SMil have a nice room to sleep in ove the xmas break.

Tonight they arrive and they promptly fold the sofa bed away and begin the pump up their own double mattress.

In fairness, the sofabed is not quite a double (just a little smaller than a double) but I think it is fucking rude to put the bed away (upon which I had laid towels and made up with lovely linen) and blow up their own - especially when they are only staying for 2 nights and then going home...

AIBU to think they are being unbelievably rude to do bring their own blow up bed when a perfectly adequate (and actually very comforatble) alternative was waiting for them???

YABU I can't see the big deal. They probably didn't want to complain to you that they disn't want to sleep in the bed. It wasn't big enough. ALso making the bed doesn't really take up much time does it?

YANBU. I think it's rude. But I agree that they need a decent-sized bed. And I can't imagine why this wasn't discussed ahead of their visit.

Yabu. Sofa beds are uncomfortable, and air beds are bigger. Plus you said the soda bed is not even a double. They were not rude, and I am sure appreciated the nice room you made ready for them.

YABU

It wouldn't bother me either.

I would have given them my bed, unless I had already given that to another older couple.

Maybe they wanted to have sex!!! and the sofa bed would be too noisy (tee hee)

I think the rude part is that they didn't tell you they were bringing the blow up bed before you went to all that effort. Other than that, no, I'd be happy for them to do their own bed in that way. Heck, I'd probably take my own if I had one - but I would definitely tell the host that I was doing so! I always take my own pillow everywhere because I have a very bad neck.

Did it really take AGES to put linen and towels out?

You're all family so they probably didn't think anything of doing it. Although, if they were thinking properly, they should have said beforehand that they were bringing their own bed so you needn't worry etc etc

I think two adults could sleep quite comfortably on a not-quite-double for two nights.

But if they would rather sleep on their own air matress what does it hurt you? They are blowing it up themselves, not causing any trouble, not inconveniencing you in any way.

Wouldn't bother me. a not quite double is a bit small for two adults to sllep on comfortably.

Trillian 2 adults from the Upahill household would not sleep comfortably for half an hour let alone 2 nights on a not quite double.

SH is 6foot 6 and nearly 20 stone and I'm 10 1/2stone and 5'5.

Not a chance we would be comfortable.
(That's why we have had King size beds for last 20 years