to hate my partner calling me "mummy"

[lochnessmumster]

Not in a wierd sexual way but if the kids are about he calls me mummy just like they do.
It makes my skin crawl and what's worse is he does it in public!
I have told him not to but it's such a habit now, he can't help himself.
He doesn't see anything creepy in it.
AIBU?

it's very creepy. has a "come to daddy" feel about it

Actually YABU.
YANBU to dislike him calling you Mummy, but the language you've used: "not in a weird sexual way", "skin crawl" and "creepy", that is a bit odd. Loads of parents do it and it's to help the kids know your titles, not to live out some bizarre sexual fantasy.
I don't blame him for saying it's not creepy, because it really isn't. You feeling that way is your problem, not his. But since you don't like it just pull him up on it until he stops, but don't make him think he's perverse, he's not. (well maybe he is for all I know, but not if that's the only thing he's doing)

My mums friends call each other mum and dad both are in their 80's mum puts it down to him being Irish.

My grandparents still call each other 'Mum' and 'Dad'. I think it's rather lovely - nothing twee about it at all in my opinion.

I wouldn't call him daddy when I was talking to him, but I call him daddy when I'm talking about him to the kids - even if he's in the room

Start calling him Daddy and see if he likes it.

"it's to help the kids know your titles"

Sorry, don't understand. They've been calling me mum or some variation on that theme their whole lives, they are not going to forget it overnight because other people to whom I am not "mum" call me my actual name!

-Plus my title is Dr MustardSeed

When your friends come round, do you insist they call you mummy in the presence of your DCS?

YANBU. It's a pity it wasn't nipped in the bud, because now it seems to be ingrained. However, if you find it so annoying (and I certainly would), you must talk to him about it and try to get him to stop doing it. I've always wondered about people who call their partners "Mummy" or "Daddy"; I see nothing wrong calling your partner by his/her name in front of the kids even right from the start.

Yuk. Yes YANBU. Just tell him you don't like it and not to do it.

Msklo and TyraG I wonder why it is 'cheeky' for kids to call you by your name and not your title. When I was growing up we called my mum by name, but my dad got called dad. My mum used to say 'I'm a person, I have a name'.

My kids mainly call me mum (or rather muuuuuuumcani....,muuuuumhehitme, muuuuuuumwheresthe....)
and I admit it does feel odd when they use my name, but don't see
that it's naughty. 'mum' does seem like it's always linked to a request for you to do something for them. Starting to use your name at some point is maybe a sign of them recognising you are a person, and not just someone who is there for them.

Your DH should recognise this already, and ought to remember your name.

Himalaya I just don't think it's appropriate for kids to call their parents by their proper names rather than mom or dad. Hell when I was a kid we didn't even call other grown ups by their names, we always called them Mrs. X or Mr. X. My kids to call my friends by their first names, but if they wanted to be called Mrs. X or Mr. X I'd insist they do it.

I guess it's just a personal preference. To each his/her own.