to tell DD1 that her friend has to go home tonight at 7.30?

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Background - friend lives next door.

Was in all day on Sunday (2pm til 8.30pm) - parents went out, I gave tea etc (not that I grudge a child food just giving background)

In all day Monday - went home at 9.30pm had arrived just before lunch.

And today in from lunchtime.

I am fed up with someone else's kid in my house and I want a night of peace.

So AIBU to tell them that she has to go home at 7.30?

I don't think I am but when I suggested this to DD1 she made The Face

YADNBU In fact if some kid had been at my house most of the week then pulled an attitude she wouldn't be invited back!

I have hesitated to do anything because I know the child is looking for company and her Mum has a lot on her plate with the two wee ones, but the cheek and attitude she pulls is unbelieveable.

I wouldn't let my own two away with it and I'm not letting anyone else's away with it.

But I feel like a total rotter

Dont feel bad it's unfair this burden is being placed on you, this child isn't your responsibilty.
If you do allow her to continue to invade your family life theen make it clear to her she will be treated the same as your DDs she cant pull the 'I'm a guest' card when she feels like it. As be very frank (she's old enough) if she want to continue being welcome she's be polite and respectful if she can't she'll have to leave on the spot no second chances.
You need to lay down some ground rules with the child and your DD and regain control.

Wow my grammer is awful I need some sleep.

Allnightlong - that's exactly how I feel.

With my own kids, when they're here on their own, it's easy...

do What you're told
When you're told
The first time you're told.

I don't run a democracy. I run a benevolent dictatorship

But when she comes in, because she's not mine, she gets away with more, and then my two start feeding on that.

And the thing is, she's in so much at the moment that its been very pervasive - it's ended up moving the goalposts in MY house.

I was trying to be nice and I got taken advantage of.

But Not Any More

Yanbu at all.

Her parents are bvu allowing this to continue.

Yeah - her Mum is totally knackered and worn down.

Her Dad is living in the same house, but doesn't really interact with the kids (he comes home in the evening and sits in the garage watching tv WTF?)

Why not suggest that your daughter goes next door tomorrow for the day?

I'd send her home for dinner tbh, say something like, we are having our dinner now, why not pop back home and have yours and you can come back after.

Surely it is better for your child to be at home with a friend as opposed to elsewhere, at least whilst she is at home you know where she is and what she is doing.

Fabby - what is wrong with MY daughter being at home with me, playing with her wee sister and me?

And her cheeky friend from next door playing in her own house?

With attitude like that I'd have picked her up bodily and dragged her out - seriously, I would not take that kind of crap from a child under any circumstances! Keep your door locked and do not let her in if it's not convenient - your house, your rules; just tell her NO!

I don't see why I should have to have her all day.

And for the record if I send mine in next door they are back within a few minutes, GND in tow and they make an excuse to stay at mine.

I do not understand, Fabby, why I should have to have someone else's child in my house ALL THE TIME?

Also, she's defiant, cheeky and bold. "just pop back" doesn't cut it with her.