AIBU to think that it doesn't take that much effort to put a gift voucher in an envelope?

[domesticsluttery]

SIL sent my DC gift vouchers for Christmas. I sent her DC the same thing. Now I know that gift cards don't come with an envelope, but I popped my niece and nephews' ones into plain white envelopes and stuck gift tags onto the front to make them look a bit more present-like. It took a whole minute or two. An envelope came in the post from SIL yesterday. Inside were the three gift vouchers, just loose. I want to put them under the tree for the DC, so I am putting them into envelopes myself the same as I did for her DC.

AIBU to think that it wouldn't have been that much effort for her to make the vouchers look a bit more like a present?

BTW her DC are 9, 7 and 5 and mine are 4, 6 and 8, so the age that likes to open things on Christmas morning.

YANBU. But there are worse things happening in the world.

Have a look at the 'What is the least of your worries?' thread.

I can't believe something so inconsequential would upset you. YABU.

yabu

I know there are worse things happening in the world. But the gift voucher thing is kind of indicative of the level of effort she makes with our DC TBH. And I'm stuck inside in the snow and generally fed up, which makes little things seem bigger.

but didnt you get vouchers for her kids as well?

I want to post what a waste of your time typing this thread is, but I am fully aware I am wasting my time typing a response.

She doesn't do things the way you like. Never mind.

yabu

A voucher is a voucher.

At 4 & 6 they are unlikely to grasp the concept so "having something to open" is a bit redundant.

For the 8 yr old - well presumably an envelope won't make it much more of a surprise, will it?

It wasn't the vouchers that bothered me (she asked for vouchers for her DC) it was the fact that they were just shoved in an envelope together, whereas if I buy people vouchers which don't come with an envelope I put them in envelopes so that they can be "opened" IYSWIM.

yabu

you both sent each other the same vouchers? maybe next time you can just supply the vouchers to your own children that way everyone gets it done the way they want.

Well I've got bugger all else to do except type this.

My workplace is shut due to the snow. Half of my DC's Christmas presents are stuck somewhere else due to the snow so I can't wrap them and it doesn't look as though any of my food will be delivered for Christmas.

At least if I stick the vouchers in an envelope the DC will have something to open.

Oh so now, not only will you have to supply envelopes for vouchers, you will be eating beans for Christmas and are snowed in till March. :(

You're a saint, and your children will be thrilled to have the vouchers within an envelope.

Loose Women is on if you're really stuck for something to do.

I bought them vouchers as they live the other side of the country and we don't see them before Christmas. Nothing that I buy is up to her "standards", she even stipulates which shop we should buy her and her DC's vouchers from. We bought her Debenhams vouchers last year and she complained as she didn't have one locally. Now I don't know Middlesex very well but I'm guessing that they have a Debenhams somewhere.

As I say, being annoyed about the envelopes is just part of a bigger problem.

domesticsluttery why should she make an effort with your kids?

and yes, you said it all, there are far worse things going on in the world.

Because they are her nephews and niece!

Think of the children, living in Middlesex with no Debenhams :(

good bloody grief.

not even a

just

so what?

I love all my neices and nephews to bits, but there is no obligation. The only people who have an obligation are you and their father.

well, it might have been a nicer gesture, but maybe your SIL in up to her eyeballs in stress with weather, deliveries, food and travel worries, just like the rest of us are. And she bunged them in an envelope and thought phew, that's one thing ticked off my foot long to-do list. give your fellow mothers a break, dear, we can't all be Kirstie bloody Allsopp.

Sorry but you said yourself it doesn't take much effort so why don't you just do it and don't worry about it.

I hardly think sticking a voucher in an envelope with a tag on constitutes effort. Your way is no better or no more exciting. DH's mother always slits open the polythene on a box of chocs and slides the money or vouchers inside it and wraps. That's a bit more effort.

At least your dcs have vouchers to open- I'm still waiting for parcels to arrive.
Why not next year, you buy vouchers for your own dcs from you and decorate them how you would like, and she buys vouchers for her children.
Job done.

If it only takes a whole minute or to, do it your blooming self.