My brother and his DP have a DD aged four and I can count on two hands the number of times I have seen her.
This is not through lack of trying on my part and it really upsets me. There has never been any kind of falling out but he has changed a lot since meeting his DP around 5/6 years ago.
We now see him a couple of times a year compared to several times a week before he was with her.
They live with her mother and until recently her sister and her kids as well and if any of my family go round there to visit we do not get to spend any quality time with my DN.
He is welcome to come and visit us anytime and bring his DP and DD. Neither of them drive and we often tell them we are willing to go and collect them and take them home whenever they are ready and they don't have to stay long but would be lovely to see DN.
They take us up on this offer once a year on DN's birthday and christmas.
This year I really do not have a lot of money for gifts and won't have DN's present until wednesday.
My dad told me today that my brother is coming round on tuesday to swap presents and I need to take my present for DN round to my parents house by then.
AIBU to not take round anything? I have just about had it with trying to have a relationship with people who are obviously not interested in me.
I am in tears as I write this but DN barely knows me and won't even talk to me when she sees me so it's not like she'll even notice there's not a present from me.