There are 5 of us- me, DH, 3 dc. DH works very hard for not a lot of pay. I am a SAHM. One week to xmas and I have bought all stocking fillers and presents for him and the dc, plus a few for myself. Last year there was not one thing that I opened that I had not bought myself, which was a bit gloomy but generally fine, I'm a big girl and got my pleasure from seeing the kids opening theirs.
DH is not mean, but we are quite skint. He has no problem with buying me something. We went shopping for a few hours last night whilst my mum babysat, but were on the whole unsuccessful. Today we had shitloads of cleaning and tidying to do. DH suggested going to a large designer outlet village nearby with all 3 kids to buy me something. I said no, assuming it would be a nightmare today. Suggested going tonight again when my mum can have the kids. Then said I will write down a few suggestions and you can go and pick something so I will have a surprise. I thought he had agreed to this. Now he basically has not bothered getting off his arse, and is whining that he wants to buy me clothes or shoes, but I need to be with him or it's pointless as I will end up taking them back. To me, if they don't fit it doesn't matter, I will exchange them, it is the surprise, and the thought, that's important.
Have just been a bit quiet when I realised he wasn't making any effort to go out tonight, despite him saying it is the last chance he will get. Pointed out tartly that they haven't moved xmas, it's the same date every year, and we have now had words.
AIBU expecting him to organise or pick something himself, despite him working FT?