to ask you two AIBUs in one?

[PeeringIntoAFestiveVoid]

DD has her friend to stay over tonight. Second time DF has stayed over, the only child to have stayed over without parents staying too (ie family friends). DF lives 30 secs walk away, on the same street.

Earlier, we all went out to play in the snow, and when we got back, DD & DF asked to have a bath to warm up. I ran it, then wondered whether it's ok for them to be naked in it together at this age, or should I put them in knickers or cossies. I figured it was (they're 7, and DF comes from a big family so presumably used to bathing with siblings etc), and they had a great time playing with all DD's animals in the bath. WIBU? (I hope not!)

My other AIBU is this: on a Saturday night in the VoidPeering household, much wine is consumed. This is done in a fairly moderate fashion, accompanied by a big roast dinner (slow roasted shoulder of lamb, oh yes! ), but we are, unarguably, getting gently but steadily sloshed. It occurred to me that some people may think I shouln't drink to gentle pissedness when in charge of someone else's child. Given that in any emergency, or even if DF just wants to go home, she's a 30 sec walk from home, AIBU to drink as I normally would?

You are being perfectly reasonable on both accounts.

YANBU x2

Iffy on the bath my 6yo DS would not want anyone 2 see his bits too sensitised to that by older siblings.

I wouldnt worry about getting gently sloshed.

That's three AIBU's btw.

AIBU to ask 2?
AIBU to bathe them together?
and
AIBU to get drunk?

But I'll you answer you anyway...

YANBU
YANBU
and
YANBU.

Yup, YANBU twice. Enjoy your evening. :)

YANBU
YANBU

Stop stressing and enjoy yourself.

I apologise humbly for doing thrice AIBU by stealth..

I thank you for your replies. I hoped I wasn't BU, but wanted to check, since have little experience of other people's children.

I can't say if you are or are not unreasonable to get sloshed - all I can say I would not leave my dc on a sleepover if I knew the parents were going to get sloshed! If you are going to have someone elses child at yours it is best to check with their parents what they are comfortable with?

The bath thing sounds fine but for your peace of mind, again probably best if you check with the parents

Hope that helped and have a good night!

YANBU about the bath

YABU about getting drunk while in charge of someone else's child. I'd be really cross but we are a tee total household so appreciate we have conservative views about alcohol.

They are currently playing Just Dance 2 on the wii and very happy, so me being slightly tipsy doesn't seem to have done anyone any harm so far.

Ooh - another AIBU by stealth....was IBU to give the wii game to DD today as an early Christmas present? My parents were supposed to come on Sunday to celebrate Solstice and exchange pressies, but can't come due to snow, so there'll be no huge celebration on Tues. I thought DD & DF would really enjoy the Just Dance wii, so I've given it to her early. AIBU?

YANBU on either count.

Given their age the bath thing is fine; I know my DC wouldn't have batted an eyelid about having a bath with a friend at that age but they are boys and therefore exhibitionists anyway

As to the drinking, we're talking a few glasses of wine and slight inebriation aren't we? Not like you're going on some all night drinking binge. So fine as well imo.

Can I just add I'm v v envious of the slow roasted lamb for Sat dinner? :)

Stop putting your parenting choices thru the test of MN AIBU. Ask the other girl's parents if THEY mind you drinking a bit and just get on with it, Peer.

I feel inspired to get me own glass of wine, now.

A bit seems ok but I still think it best to talk to parents

And YANBU about the wii!

Now, can I have some lamb?

Ragged I'd have to go round and ask, and I'd feel very silly doing that. I'm pretty sure they'd say it's absolutely fine on both counts, and will mention it tomorrow, but to go round especially to ask.... I'd be

hatesponge slow roasted since 4pm, with roast potatoes and sweet potatoes, brussel sprouts parboiled and then roasted in the lamb juices, and carrots simmered in butter and thyme. I'm about to make the gravy now. There was a thread recently about not being bothered to do a roast every week....I just don't get it! We are a two roast weekend household..

Geepers I know they are very much not teetotal, and are very laid back. I wouldn't have a child of obvious teetotallers to stay at the weekend.

MsKalo Only if you get here within the hour, else it will be all gone...

YABU.
You're making me drool for slow roast lamb and wine.

In all other respects YANBU

unless the animals in the bath were real, YANBU!

Brilliant baabaapinksheep

YANBU x 3

What cat64 said.

Well I've just eaten my dinner, which was fantastic. The children are now supposed to be asleep, but are actually playing a barely audible game in her room. I am now pleasantly but very gently pissed. I'm as far from vomiting in a gutter as you could get, but is this acceptable to the MN majority? This is my definition (currently), of 'get sloshed' - I wouldn't drive, but I feel that I could handle an emergency with moderate aplomb.

baabaapinksheep only the hippos and meerkats were real....

YANBU about the bath. Not for several years I would have thought.

As long as you are no more than gently, warmly merry (as I am myself right now), and since her home is just down the street, YANBU about the wine either. I'd be worried if you were off your head looking after any child, but it doesn't sound like you are.