...to not want rumpy pumpy with DH?

[Zeeky]

Had friends over for dinner tonight. Spent last few days cooking & preparing for it. 7mth old been ill for week with chest infection then started vomiting & squits in reaction to antibiotics. Been averaging about 4hrs sleep a night. I'm going down with cold & hacking cough. I do everything at home & to prepare for christmas - DH goes to work.

Friends leave tonight at 1am & house is an almighty mess. 7mth old has woken for 3rd time. I say to DH that I'm feel sick & don't have the energy to do any clearing up & need to go to bed before I fall over. DH then says "Fancy a bit of lovin then?" ????!!!!!@@@ my response was one of utter shock - "god no way. I can't think of anything I'd rather do less!" Cue DH looking hurt & upset & me feeling guilty!

AIBU to think that DH is an insensitive knob???

NYANBU! Men.
Hope you feel better soon and of course your DC x

YADNBU, he's definitely an insensitive knob.

Well his timing is really insensitive, but on the other hand he still fancies you even though you are exhausted and feeling ill. That's a positive thing!

I little bit of both tbh.
He was feeling in the mood you weren't that doesn't mean you need to be scathing about it.

YANBU

He was probably feeling in the mood because he isn't nearly as knackered as you. Going to work is rarely more knackering then 4 hours sleep a night with a sick baby, with the cooking and cleaning prep that goes into entertaining as well you must be exhausted.

Its the weekend now. Let him get up with the baby whilst you catch up on some sleep. Suggest to him some more sleep may help your libido.

Well, your very emphatic 'no way!' was a bit, uh... strong and probably crushing to his manly ego. So I can see why he is upset, but the daft git shouldn't really have been asking for a game of hide the sausage when you have just told him you are completely exhausted and feeling unwell. YANBU.

I hope you and the little one both start feeling better soon.

You are unreasonable for using the term 'rumpy pumpy'

Don't think men get the concept of being too exhausted and overwrought for sex. Strange creatures. Yanbu.